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| julieju |
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Posted: 8/6/2007 11:43 PM |
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Subject: DUMPED CHEATING PARTNER BUT STILL HURTING |
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WomanSaver Lurker
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Age: 37
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Well I‘ll Keep it simple I‘ve been on here a few times over last few months. I had what appeared to be a loving partner 7 kids between us including a beautiful new baby 7 months. Due to get married buy a house Jan 08. It was just after baby was born I started to feel that nagging doubt. He never went out alone (or together) but had a job as salesman so his time was his own. Just kept feeling something wasn‘t right. Any way he came home few weeks ago n left his laptop. Yes ladies I had to do it, I just had to look. He‘d been on an adult sex site advertising for casual sex wi couples! advertising self as bi. My world collapsed around my ears can tell you. I kicked him out that morn but then just to make me totally sure I e mailed him a profile I‘d created of a couple and got in tougch that day. He took the bait and went on web cam that evening expecting it to be them. Course it wor me. I took no pleasure from this. In fact made me feel worse knowing he‘d rather do that than fight to save our 3 year relationship. I‘m still smarting he told me its my fault I‘m boring and he did it for some fun. Now he‘s turned real nasty and I‘ve had to ring police twice. My love for him has well and truly gone but I‘m struggling to cope with his nastiness. I won‘t let him see the baby cos I‘m so worried he won‘t give him back or he‘ll be nasty to him. Advice welcome pls.
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| meandnotyou |
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Posted: 8/7/2007 5:10 AM |
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Subject: DUMPED CHEATING PARTNER BUT STILL HURTING |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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Did you save any of the emails as proof?
You‘ve got 7 kids between the two of you. Where are they?
I‘d suggest you call an attorney pronto.
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| julieju |
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Posted: 8/7/2007 9:37 AM |
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Subject: DUMPED CHEATING PARTNER BUT STILL HURTING |
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Well 3 are mine from 1st marriage and 3 were his from previous. We have 7 month baby tog. I have 4 at home. Didn‘t want to do all legal crap as so costly. Wor hoping to just agree stuff. But oviously not be.
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| ash001 |
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Posted: 8/16/2007 5:23 PM |
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New WomanSaver
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Age: 33
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After reading your story I feel I am not alone. I admire your courage to dump him. I have different situation. After five years of promise of getting married. My fiancee‘ just told me that for now he does nto want to marry me and future he does nto know. I think he is seeing someone in another city I am not sure how to catch him. I wish I can see his chat and txt message I have no clue how to go about it. I need proof. I do nto want to end it based on doubt. But he is distant, no communication, hardly shows affaction. and not available on weekend at all. Suggest anything how I can find out on him check on him he is in another city. I wnt to monitor his chat e-mail any suggestion?
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| kueenk |
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Posted: 9/14/2007 1:25 PM |
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New WomanSaver
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Age: 36
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Sorry to hear of this disappointment. I want to say what we women need to do is know a counterfeit when they approach us. The children are blessings brought forth out of such a mess. Thank God, that you did not marry because it would have just been another issue you would be going through. You should use this time to get into YOU and find out who you really are, what you like, what you deserve, and how you are going to keep yourself together mentally and physically. I recommend reading the Word of God. If you desire a good man, wait for God to send him to you!
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Posted: 10/10/2007 11:25 AM |
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One thing I have learned is to trust my instincts and REALLY listen to my gut. I still hurt from my last relationship. He was deceptive, manipulative, and a player. I know he will never change and I need to move on and heal. It takes time. Reading about other‘s experiences has helped, plus reading about personality disorders. Hang in there! Just focus on what you want in a relationship. I hope I have helped...
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