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| Purple Dragon |
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Posted: 4/23/2007 11:28 AM |
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Subject: Happy B-Day For Him...It Wasn‘t Easy |
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WomanSaver Lurker
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Age: 50
Total Posts: 31
Karma
California
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I hope this is one of the last "repercussions" of his affair. As I mentioned in my previous post, My fiance‘s b-day weekend involved a one-night stay at the hotel he had his affair at last year. The rooms were already booked & paid for by his son, (he didn‘t know before-hand) no refunds, so I had to make the best of it. I have to admit, it wasn‘t easy for me to put on a happy face, but I tried really hard. Everytime I had a problem coming on, I remembered the advice from "sagewy"(thank you, girl) and was determined not to give "the other woman" the power to keep taking away my happiness. He was exceptionally considerate and attentive to me, especially when I felt a little distant & deep in thought at times. We decorated the room with balloons & banners and he was really surprised. We had a nice dinner at Dolce‘s and stayed out ‘til 2am at the casino downstairs. Not surprisingly, due to where we were staying, romance & sex was not a high priority that night for either of us, but the mutual love & affection made up for it. I‘m just glad this weekend is over & to be perfectly honest, I would not chose to go back to that hotel in the future. I know that I‘m still not over his past mistake, but I‘m trying the best I can. Right now, I‘m feeling really emotionally drained, and wish I could have handled the weekend better. Why am I feeling so bad about it???!!! He‘s very sorry for what he did & we both have learned a painful lesson. There‘s no way around it, affairs are devastating, but if you can survive it, it makes your relationship stronger than ever before. I just hope "she" never tries to contact him again, since it was such a game to her. I hope "she" someday realizes what a shitty low-life thing she took part in. I would really appreciate any feedback on this. My previous posts are on "Catch A Cheater"...... Thanx
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| sagewy |
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Posted: 4/26/2007 9:10 AM |
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Subject: Happy B-Day For Him...It Wasn‘t Easy |
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WomanSaver Addict
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Age: 36
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clovis
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 Stay strong, one day at a time, you take your power back and your relationship. It takes time but as long as he is worth it and is involved in the process you two can become even closer than before. Hope you read my post recommending Jim Conway‘s revised book on men in midlife crisis. You can get it online for like 5 or 6 dollars. His wife Sally has a book also for the women.
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