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Yorkie34
  Posted: 11/5/2005 1:13 AM Subject: Do women like giving blow jobs?
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I hope I have posted this in the right place and am not in breach of any rules, but I just wondered if I am strange or something.

It‘s not that I don‘t like doing it at all, I have been married to my husband for 3 1/2 years and we have been together for 14 years. Recently we have had problems though I lost trust in him and found it had to deal with.

Recently he moved out and went to stay with his brother to think about things, and has said that he won‘t be coming back and it‘s for the best. I pleaded with him to come back and he said okay I will if you get down on your knees and do something that I have always wanted you to do.

He wanted me to give him a blow job, no problem I can do that providing it‘s been washed but he not only wants me to do that but he wants me to swallow. I can‘t do that it‘s the one thing I just can‘t do I have tried and ended up in the loo throwing up. He seems to think that every women except me loves doing it and that I should too so I just needed to know am I strange?



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  Posted: 11/5/2005 3:35 AM Subject: Do women like giving blow jobs?
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Like Carrie said on Sex and the City......it‘s not my favorite thing on the menu, but I like to sample it from time to time. 

 



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  Posted: 11/5/2005 7:00 AM Subject: Do women like giving blow jobs?
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When I was in my early 20‘s and married with small children, I really had no desire to do it. Part of it was the way that I was raised by my parents and being from a Christian home. We didn‘t talk about sex much. Even though I was married, anything outside of the normal was taboo and shameful to me. I married at 17 and my first husband was very sexually demanding thanks to his love for porn and his many fetishes I was exposed to things that made me feel degraded and embarrassed. We are divorced now, and his mental and sexual abuse is something that I have had to come to terms with.  When I was with him, I would give him the bj that he so desired but I couldn‘t do the swallow thing. Back then, a bj was not something that I wanted to do, it was expected and that created my hostility toward the act.

I have gotten past this and realized that there is nothing wrong with it as long as you enjoy it. If you do not enjoy it then you should not do it. If this is something that you want to try for his benefit and your own, you need to open your mind. Not doing so will cause you to feel disgusted and ashamed. I get the feeling from your post that there is a little more to your hesitance than cleanliness. That is why I say that opening your mind to it is vital to how you feel about yourself during and after the act. Pleasing your man can be an incredibly erotic experience if you mind is open.

With all of that said, I can tell you why I love to give my new husband a grand-slam bj . . . First of all, I love this man so much and giving him pleasure satisfies me. He is my best friend and I trust him with all of my heart because I know how much he loves me. His body chemistry stimulates my senses and he can‘t give me a simple hug without me wanting to totally ravage him. I love the way he smells, even when he comes in sweaty from mowing the lawn. 

He is a very passionate and gentle lover. When I give him a bj, he loves it. I can see the pleasure in his facial expressions and it pleases me in return. For some reason, men are turned on by the big swallowing finish. I had never done this before I was with him, but I knew that men loved it. Knowing that made me want to try. It takes a little getting used to but I even love that part of it now because he loves it so much. I am always rewarded by him, because he loves to please me as much as I love to please him. (I know that I said LOVE a lot here, but I think that love and trust was the key to opening my own mind.)

The thing that raises an eyebrow for me is that it seems your husband is using this bj thing as terms of reconciliation. It tells me that his sexual needs are more important then your relationship.  

 



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  Posted: 11/5/2005 7:42 AM Subject: Do women like giving blow jobs?
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I think that it is ok to do something for the one that you love once in a while and besides you guys are married...Sometimes you have to swallow your pride and do what you have to do in orde to keep your man..What you don‘t do another woman will, always keep that in mind...

I also think that this is your oppartunity to have him do something to you that you have always desired...In a relationship you have to give and take.

Oh and another thing I am no fan of kissing is that strange or what?? I get nothing out of doing it...But I still do it with my man time to time..Truth is I should do it more with him because he loves kissing.



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  Posted: 11/5/2005 8:10 AM Subject: Do women like giving blow jobs?
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It‘s not my FAVORITE thing to do, but I do like giving my boyfriend (when I‘m in a relationship) pleasure. However, I am like you. If someone ejaculates into my mouth, I have to fight like hell not to throw up. Not because i think it‘s "disgusting" or "gross," because I don‘t. I just can‘t handle the taste/texture. So I started to tell my boyfriends that. My recent ex said he LOVED getting BJs from me because I was so "into" it. And I‘d do it all the time. But he knew about my "sensitive stomach" issue and was fine with stopping "just before." However, I have real concerns that your husband has said he‘ll reconcile (to paraphrase) if you‘ll perform a sexual act. That‘s bullying and manipulative and who knows where it could lead.

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However, I have real concerns that your husband has said he‘ll reconcile (to paraphrase) if you‘ll perform a sexual act. That‘s bullying and manipulative and who knows where it could lead.


I completely agree. Wanting you to give him BJs is one thing, but saying he won‘t come back to you unless you do give him BJs? I don‘t know, that just sounds selfish to me. He has every right to want sexual favors from you, but it‘s not right that he is pressuring you to do something he knows you don‘t enjoy.

I used to never like giving blow jobs because i have a horrible gag reflex and i knew a guy came in my mouth i would be gagging if i swallowed it. I have always dealt with it by being honest with my boyfriends and telling them how bad my gag reflex is. I never had any of them make a big deal about it. Then with i was with my last boyfriend, I would gag occasionally, just giving him a BJ. The first time it happened he asked me if i was ok and i told him yes, and we went right back to what we were doing. Whenever it happened again after that, he just ignored it. When he did come in my mouth (and he even warned me first that he was getting ready to) I just spit it out immediately. I spit it out on myself and to be honest i don‘t even think he noticed. So after that i was more comfortable giving him BJ‘s than i ever had been with any other guy.  Do you think maybe you could try giving your man a blow job and the towards the end change it to a hand job? I myself have had good luck with that, i can‘t speak for anyone else though. Anyway, i think it‘s really uncool that this man that supossedly loves you is so wrapped up in getting a BJ he doesn‘t care if it makes you uncomfortable. And that‘s not right. So there‘s my two cents on the subject.



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  Posted: 11/5/2005 10:58 AM Subject: Do women like giving blow jobs?
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Hi, and Thanks for Asking!

I agree with the idea that it‘s who you‘re giving this to and out of what motivation--affection, love, fun vs. weird power trip or "submission."  Sex should be pleasurable and fun.  Period.  

And, yes, make your special requests of him!  Sex is about mutuality, it‘s not supposed to be a battleground, although it may feel like the latter sometimes.  In my mother‘s generation, and for those raised in households with those values, a bj was something only a "prostitute" would do, not a nice woman.  This is a holdover from Victorian times, however, smart women realized from time immemorial (with no real birth control available) that it was a way to prevent having 10 children...

If you are willing, and feel good about his person, use your hand too, of course, pull back a little bit as he‘s coming, and then have  a towel ready to discretely spit it out.  If he needs to "ram it down your throat" while you "swallow his cum," he‘s been trained by too many porno movies {see the new book Pornification that outlines why so many modern men can‘t have sex unless it‘s like the porno movies they watch....


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bunnyluvin wrote:
mercedeeez wrote:
Oh and another thing I am no fan of kissing is that strange or what?? Iget nothing out of doing it...But I still do it with my man time totime..Truth is I should do it more with him because he loves kissing.


I am a little hesitant about giving a bj.  I haven‘t given oneyet, and I probably won‘t until I am married.  To me, it‘s morepersonal than just sex.

About kissing, I hardly get anything out of it either, but I still doit, because I think it is the most important part.  Now that isstrange, huh?


Well, if you feel that badly about the thought of doing it then maybe you should not be doing it because it might make you feel bad after.  my question to you is are you afraid to do it because you are inexperinced or because of commitment issues.  I personaly don‘t see any point in holding out on some sexual acts until marriage  if you are already sexually active.

But like lI said if you feel that strongly about it then maybe you should not do it to him..and Good luck! One question does your man go down on you?



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  Posted: 11/5/2005 1:20 PM Subject: Do women like giving blow jobs?
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I pleaded with him to come back and he said okay I will if you get down on your knees and do something that I have always wanted you to do.

He wanted me to give him a blow job



WHAT???? That is absolutely disgusting! Sex should NEVER be used in that manner. He was on some sort of sick power trip. Like Judy said, I would‘ve told him to suck it himself. I don‘t think your hubby has much respect for you at all.
But to answer the question, I don‘t mind blowjobs. In fact, once I get really into it, I enjoy doing it. I love to hear my man mooooooooooaaaaaaaan. *Ahem* No one has ever "finished" in my mouth though. I always stop and let my hands do the rest.


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  Posted: 11/6/2005 2:43 PM Subject: Do women like giving blow jobs?
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Thanks for all the replies and welcomes i‘m glad I posted in the right place.

I have just re-read my first post and it really does sound bad doesn‘t it, he has since appologised for putting me through that the other day saying that it wasn‘t fair and he didn‘t want me to do it if I strongly didn‘t want too and also agreed that he should not have asked me to do that as a reason for him to come home.

The main problem we had was the irrational emotional mess that I had got myself into, he is a fantastic man, works hard and also does his share around the house I couldn‘t really ask for a better husband. He also has always loved me for who I am untill recently I turned into a complete lunatic accusing him of allsorts and basically making his life hell its no wonder he left.

It took me until he said thats it we can‘t carry on like this any longer and started to work out arrangements for when he would see our daughter that I finally realised how stupid I had been. Its me who had the issues, I hate my body etc and I just always thought he would find someone better.

I want to do this for him not cos I am being forced but because I love him very much, he has agreed to come home after I told him how much I loved and missed him and that I had realised how stupid I had been.

He is okay with the fact that I still am not sure about the swallowing thing but I might just try some of your tips like the handy towel. I know how bad my gag reflex is and just the thought makes me feel sick, but I guess with practice I will learn to get passed that.

In answer to your question he does like to go down on me, but I stopped him doing it as I couldn‘t give back what he would have liked.

Thanks again everyone might just stick around here a while since you give great advice



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  Posted: 11/6/2005 4:01 PM Subject: Do women like giving blow jobs?
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Yorkie34 wrote:

Thanks for all the replies and welcomes i‘m glad I posted in the right place.

Ihave just re-read my first post and it really does sound bad doesn‘tit, he has since appologised for putting me through that the other daysaying that it wasn‘t fair and he didn‘t want me to do it if I stronglydidn‘t want too and also agreed that he should not have asked me to dothat as a reason for him to come home.

The main problem wehad was the irrational emotional mess that I had got myself into, he isa fantastic man, works hard and also does his share around the house Icouldn‘t really ask for a better husband. He also has always loved mefor who I am untill recently I turned into a complete lunatic accusinghim of allsorts and basically making his life hell its no wonder heleft.

It took me until he said thats it we can‘t carry on likethis any longer and started to work out arrangements for when he wouldsee our daughter that I finally realised how stupid I had been. Its mewho had the issues, I hate my body etc and I just always thought hewould find someone better.

I want to do this for him not cos I ambeing forced but because I love him very much, he has agreed to comehome after I told him how much I loved and missed him and that I hadrealised how stupid I had been.

He is okay with the fact that Istill am not sure about the swallowing thing but I might just try someof your tips like the handy towel. I know how bad my gag reflex is andjust the thought makes me feel sick, but I guess with practice I willlearn to get passed that.

In answer to your question he doeslike to go down on me, but I stopped him doing it as I couldn‘t giveback what he would have liked.

Thanks again everyone might just stick around here a while since you give great advice



Yorkie34
I guess I‘m the odd woman out..when I‘m in a committed relationship
I love giving bjs..sometimes I swallow sometimes
I don‘t.If he puts you on the spot with this issue you‘ll never
feel comfortable with doing it.

It has to be something YOU want to do to please him.Try
having a drink to relax you first...don‘t focus on the act focus
on how good you‘re making him feel....when you‘re really
into it your inhibitions will disappear.

Good luck to you Yorkie


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  Posted: 11/6/2005 11:13 PM Subject: Do women like giving blow jobs?
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I have learned a trick or two that may help you out. Not, that I‘m a pro, LOL

First off, once you realize how much pleasure this brings your man you will think differently. Now who says that a BJ is all about him banging it down your throat? It‘s not, that woud take forever, and no wonder women don‘t like to do that. First off, the tease is a must! You can start with kissing his nipples, mens nipples are sensitive too! While you are doing this you can run your hand on the inside of his thighs...careful not to "touch" that spot that he so BADLY wants you to touch. Use your mouth and kisses all the way down to his belly button, by this time it should be bopping you in the cheek. You can then go back and forth with just your tongue and lips on the spot just two inches from the head, on the back side of his cock. This is his most sensitive spot. Use a lot of light licks and kissing, make putting the whole thing in your mouth the final outcome (no pun intended)  start to put the end of it in your mouth use your tongue and lips and rub up and down the outside of his penis. When you do eventually feel that he has been teased beyond repair, you can cup his balls in your hand, or put one hand over the base of his cock and give him part hand job and part blow job. This way you are not gagging, and he can‘t tell the difference. As far as swallowing, that is up to you. You can also use this as foreplay and finnish with intercourse then you won‘t have to worry about swallowing.


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What a question a fun one too. Well, I enjoy giving BJ‘s I have gotten so good I can go deep too but I DO NOT SWALLOW!!! I finally overcame the gagging w/lots of practice it does make perfect. I have never had the desire to swallow and I have always told them upfront I don‘t swallow. If I‘m gonna give someone a BJ they best go down on me too! I did some erotic BJ‘s too I did crazy stuff w/my throat there‘s more to it then just sucking etc. I loved pleasing my no good cheating piece of shit husband. I bet he pays good money to have his whorefriend suck his cock now! I bet she swallows all the time too the no good slut. I know I was good at it and the next man I get with will be so happy when I gobble him up!!! Swallowing shouldn‘t make or break a relationship. I think the taste and texture would make me pukeJ just thinking about it makes my stomach turn. I suppose w/the right guy and if I‘m in the right mood I may get adventurous one day and swallow. But today‘s not that day and tomorrow doesn‘t look good either.

But to use it as a weapon for him to come back to you. I‘d of told him to go fuck himself! I‘m glad you worked it out though.

 



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risingphoenix wrote:

 I know I was good at it and the next man I get with will be so happy when I gobble him up!!!



Hello!!! I can take it or leave it, to me it is strictly voluntary, I would never ask for it. Penetration is more to my liking.

I do however enjoy giving oral...those secret spots nuzzled with just the right amount of pressure...I really need a g/f....



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Pardon the brief thread hijack...

Alex-  What ever happened to the girl in your class?  Did you ever get her number if you don‘t mind me asking?



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Lady1981 wrote:

Pardon the brief thread hijack...

Alex-  What ever happened to the girl in your class?  Did you ever get her number if you don‘t mind me asking?



She elected to tell me that she wasnt dating anyone currently. I take that as two things, that A she is telling the truth or B she let me down easily. I would like to feel as though I have good taste in whom I find attractive, If I found her attractive, then other men do as well, she can pick and chose..oh well, it is not the end of the road, but a beginning for me. I asked, I got answer, for me, it is a breakthrough...

what sucks is the typical male draw-in of I found her sexually attractive and let that part sink in...ugh...

 



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Ok, Maybe Im a bit strange in this area...however... I have to say, I LOVE IT!  Yes, I swallow. The taste is disgusting! that part I DONT ENJOY! I guess I like the whole fact that I am pleasing him. I love the reaction I get from them while I do it as well! I guess I ljust like to get freaky like that.

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The funny thing is that I used to hate them. This one jerk off even told me that I was "never going to get married if I wouldn‘t give head." Obviously I never saw that guy again. But once I married my husband and was so in love (at the beginning LOL) I wanted to do that to him as a way of expresssing my love. Also, he told me that he had never "finished" that way so I wanted to be the one to do it. The ironic thing is that he often turns me down when I ask him if he would like "oral pleasure."  He isn‘t even in to it.

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krismiss wrote:

Like Carrie said on Sex and the City......it‘s not my favorite thing on the menu, but I like to sample it from time to time. 

 



Samantha Jones said "They don‘t call it a ‘job‘ for nothing!"


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I think that if he is past the point of "no return" it does matter if it happens in your mouth or not.  I found out recently from a Gay Friend that they don‘t swallow.  You can always change towards the end *** between your breasts- like in the movies, that is always sexy.



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