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Aww honey  you are so young,  he is a scum dog,  he did you way wrong.  better to find out now then find out after you married him, had his kids and wasted your youth.

You will get thru this,  it gets easier everyday.  Hang tuff and no matter what  do not contact him,  that too will be easier as time goes by.  Then when this woman hurts him  or he realizes how stupid he was,  you can set back and laugh.

You will trust again, maybe not him  but there is a wonderful young man out there that will love and respect you!

You learn from each relationship and in turn, you will never allow yourself to get hurt like this again.  You’ll notice red flags sooner, you will learn that if you do not like something to speak up, you will learn to take care of yourself and listen to that little voice in your head when it talks to you.  Men earn your trust like you earn their trust.  The fear will pass when you learn what and what you will not put up with.

Give it time, you will heal and you will fall in love again.  Don’t rush the love thing.  If I was your age, I would be dating a bunch of different men.  That is how you find out what type of man you might someday want to settle down with. 

In the meantime, cry and scream and get it all out.  Post here.  You will have good days and bad days.  We are here to listen and help.  Remember, boys are stupid!

Oh to be 19 again.....

You should thank your lucky stars that you "found out" about him now. When you started dating this kid at 16, I was already pregnant....so thank God you‘re not in that boat.

You are so young and have your whole life in front of you. Don‘t let one bad apple spoil the whole bushel.There are lots of fish in the sea....

Good luck!!

hopeandpray wrote:

so much for the replies, I do feel thankful that I found out before things got far, he had wanted to propose to me and talked about having kids so I‘m really glad I didn‘t waste more of my time on him. I‘m young and I know I should feel like it will be easy to find someone new but it will be hard to trust again. small steps I suppose.

Don‘t let him or what he did to you consume you.

There are so many wonderful things to do, to see and to experience.  Do not let him controll you. 

There are great men out there   that will love you and cherish you,  make you number 1 in there lives.

Let the loser go,  he will have to fight his own demons,  he has issues,  don‘t get involved in them.

you spent most of your formative years with just one person and now he wants his freedom. i understand that it hurts. but it is over, he‘s moved on.

in the futher, don‘t respond to texts, calls, emails or messages from either one of them. it‘s none of you business, anymore.

he‘s allowed, at such a young age to go and sow his oats, as are you. i understand how you feel, i had the same boyfriend all the way thur high school. we planned to be married at graduation until i got some sense in my head.

i‘m very glad i didn‘t marry my first love. and coming from the other side, i have to tell you, once i broke up with him, i didn‘t want him back and i didn‘t look back.

i have had men dump me, ones i loved dearly but every single one of them came back and asked me for another chance. maybe he will some far off day. maybe.

in the meantime, have some fun, go out and "hang paper". this is an activitey where you go around to events and give as many boys your phone number as you take a fancy too. then sit back and see who calls.

stay busy, and if you run into him, make sure you look killer good and act like you can‘t quite place where you know him from.

get busy, good luck.

You are hilarious. I forgot how much fun it was here and how many nice people there are. This was great advice and I agree.

I wish you the best hopeandpray.