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I am currently divorced from my husband of 7yrs. He had several affairs and lied all the time. I have went off on these women and him but it nevr made him stop. The last woman he cheated with told me he was her soulmate and that they were in love and getting married. If that wasn‘t bad enough she told me they were going to take custody of my son. I went off on her and filed for divorce from him. Well I know it seems like I did the right thing an now all I need to do is rebuild my life but this is were my story gets crazy.

 Even though me and my husband are divorced he still lives with me and talks to that woman. I told him to stop and even made him leave but for some reason I always let him back in my house to live. Part of the reason  I do this is because of our children, another part is because if he doesn‘t stay with me then I know he will be living out of his car, and the last reason is because I love him and still want to be with him. I want him to change and be my husband again but I know it‘s not going to happen. When ever I have asked him why he cheated he always say he don‘t know it‘s just something he did.

I make a good living and can afford my kids and bills on my own but if he moves out I can not afford to go to school and I really want to go! I don‘t know what to do I don‘t want him to be homeless and I want to go to school but I can‘t take his lying cheating ways!

So my question is this how do I get what I want (going to school having him in my kids life) and feel good about my self? How do I put him out and be ok with the fact he has no where to go? I have tried so many times but the thought of him sleeping in his car kills me! I worry so much that I can‘t sleep or eat. Please help

Side note: we have one child together my other two are not his but he is the only father they know!

 So if you are divorced why isn‘t he living the dream with his soul mate??  .

 He is living with you and still conversing with "it"?  EEK !!

 I can understand your feelings of wanting him to be YOUR husband, but he made a choice.......He chose "it".

 I‘m sorry for your pain I can only immagine how crushing it must be for you. but he is being even more cruel to you now than before. If he has to live in his car that is not your fault. It‘s the result of decissions HE made.  

  You said you have a good job, does he have a job?

  You sound like a very patient and loving person, could you be wasting that love and patience on someone who doesn‘t even want it??

Absolutely. My sister is going to school on the grant that Obama put into motion for single mothers. He is just an awful man that does need to either sleep in his car or at the other womans house. You need to practive tough love. It is the hardest thing you will ever do in your life but you will come to realize in time that it was the best thing you ever could have done.

Good luck.