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| dd5 |
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Posted: 3/17/2010 5:58 AM |
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Subject: guy needs help with major moral dilemma |
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| funkle2 wrote: | | i was recently hit on by my sisters new husband. i didnt tell her because she is madly in love with him and it would probably destroy their relationship and possibly ours for not telling her. what should i do. please help |
Hmmm....did I read this right....you are a male, your sisters husband hit on you....I assume you mean in a sexual manner and not a physical one....does your sister know her husband might possibly be gay? You should tell her and let her decide, it could save her much heart-ache down the road.
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Posted: 3/17/2010 7:17 PM |
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Funkle’s brother-in-law could be bi-sexual or gay. Funkle could be gay or bi-sexual as well. That is why I asked what exactly happened. I need a little more detail.
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| Drew J |
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Posted: 3/18/2010 11:36 PM |
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| malarkey marie wrote: | then tell him if he doesn‘t stop, you will lay it all out for his wife, your sister.
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If he‘s hitting on his wife‘s brother, doesn‘t that make him gay or bisexual? The original poster in the topic is male.
Secondly, I disagree. If he is hitting on one other person that is not his wife, assume he will do it to others. As someone said he may not be having safe sex with others behind his wife‘s back. Therefore you can‘t give scum like this a warning as it will enable them to be more sneaky and perhaps never be caught ****ing around. You need to be as covert and secret as possible. Don‘t let the enemy know that you know. Tell someone else (wife) what happened, to keep their eyes open and follow him closely either by yourself or through a P.I. Adultery and possible STD‘s are nothing to take lightly and you certainly can‘t let the cheater know you are on to them. You have to play it cool and catch them in a trap by pretending you don‘t know. That‘s how you win in war.
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Posted: 3/20/2010 8:57 AM |
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Posted: 3/22/2010 10:31 PM |
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WOW... thank you all for the advice. some of you didnt catch the fact that im a guy though, and yes i am gay but in no way did i flirt with him or bring this on. despite that im sure you all know how to deal with these situations better than me i think im gonna go against the majoritys opinion and not just straight up tell. its a more fragile situation than most of you probably realise and one of those few cases where being brutally honest just simply isnt the answer. sorry if you all feel like ive wasted your time. But M....Marie gave some advice i cant ignore and that is to at least plant the seed in my sisters mind.
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Posted: 3/23/2010 3:05 AM |
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We can always offer advice but of course you‘re the one in the situation, funkle! You know your sister best and it‘s up to your discretion and ultimately your decision on what you think is best.
It‘s good that you‘ll plant the seed, if she reached the realization herself it will be so much better for her emotional well being. I just hope she catches on - and meanwhile, be her guardian angel and keep an eye out on her sleazy husband!
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Posted: 3/23/2010 5:58 AM |
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| funkle2 wrote: |
| WOW... thank you all for the advice. some of you didnt catch the fact that im a guy though, and yes i am gay but in no way did i flirt with him or bring this on. despite that im sure you all know how to deal with these situations better than me i think im gonna go against the majoritys opinion and not just straight up tell. its a more fragile situation than most of you probably realise and one of those few cases where being brutally honest just simply isnt the answer. sorry if you all feel like ive wasted your time. But M....Marie gave some advice i cant ignore and that is to at least plant the seed in my sisters mind. |
You sound like a very caring man, I like the sound of you being your sisters guardian angel, as Kahlan called you, it sounds like you care a lot for your sister, she is lucky to have you for a brother.
Now plant that seed and keep us informed..... .
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