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I will be having surgery on March 22.  I have a medical condition that I have been contending with for close to 14 years, and finally, I got a doctor to take me seriously.  They did an MRI, and now it is "urgent" to have the surgery done.  It is truly amazing what we have to go through sometimes just to be "heard." 

I am having a lot of emotions right now.  It seems that everyone around me is acting like this is "nothing."  But my regular GP said to me that the other doctor would not be sending me to the cancer center if they did not strongly suspect there is a malignancy.  The biopsy was unsuccessful, so I am headed to see the "big guns" to get it done.

I am a strong woman, and not inclined to think negatively, but I will admit that I am pretty scared.  I have a lot of responsibilities, and as a single mom, I am "it." There really hasn‘t been anyone to discuss this with.  Everyone is so busy, and all of them have their own problems.

I guess I shouldn‘t be too hard on the kids, and people around me.  I have always acted like I could handle anything.  I‘m not given to drama and big "displays" of emotion.  I‘m not used to handing my responsibilities over to other people, or to asking for help. 

Today I am admitting that I need help, and that I feel frightened and overwhelmed. 

Thank you, Nstevens!

I, too, have one special needs child, and yes, I am pretty accustomed to "asserting" myself.  She‘s now 25 years old, and I have taught her how to advocate for herself.  She‘s a new mom now, and I am assisting her quite a lot with the baby.  She, too, gets "patted on the head" and it infuriates me. 

I am just pissed at what I have had to go through to be taken seriously.  We trust doctors.  We trust them to do what‘s best for us.  These tests should have been done years ago.  I went to the ER once after passing out, and was told, "You are suffering from _____.  Call your regular doctor tomorrow." 

It wasn‘t until I screamed and said, "This is NOT normal!" that they finally said, "Well, let‘s have a looksie."  (I think the doctor may have even rolled his eyes)

Thank you for your kind words and support, Nstevens.  Hope all is well with you and your family.

Rhi, I am sorry to hear about your surgery, but at least they finally listened to you.  It is perfectly normal to be scared and do ask for help, that okay as well.  Concentrate on you and your health now.

As for the kids just shrugging it off, I am sure they are scared and worried, but do not want to think about it because they want life to continue to be as normal as possible.

If you need anything or just want to talk, give me a call.  I’m here for you. 

Rhiannon 

I am sorry you have to go through this, and that the doctors waited so long before doing anything. How frustrating!

We‘ll have to keep in touch. I am having a "suspicious" lump removed from my breast on 3/26, and I am afraid too. Yours sound more serious.....I will be thinking of you & praying for you A LOT.

I‘m gonna pm you my cel #. I will light a pink candle for you at Temple today.

All is well, all is well, all is well.

UB

Thanks - all of you - so much!  Your kindness, thoughtful replies, and caring means the world to me.  I appreciate it so much.  You are such positive and inspirational women.  Your warm replies do a lot to reassure me that I am not alone.

Shally, I appreciate your prayers, and all the support you show to all of the women on this site. 

Thanks to all of you for being there for me. 

Rhi,  I pray that everything will be okay.

Prayers and thoughts are with you Rhi!