WomanSavers.com Forum / GENERAL / He´s just not that into you

By Greg Behrent and Liz Trucillo

This is a book of self-improvement I just read-AND ITS GREAT !!

Its about denial: all the excuses and lame explanations MEN make to avoid telling women that they dont love them.

AND the excuses and lame explanations women make to avoid facing the fact that they are holdning on to something that is going nowhere.

The basic premise of the book is: IF the man is truly crazy about you, he will move Heaven and Earth to be with you, take care of you and have sex with you. He will love you for just being you.

AND YOU DESERVE  NO LESS THAN THAT

So...

Guys wanting to be with you-but "just going through a difficult divorce/waiting for the right time divorce the bitch/custody battle/busy time at work/family problems to take care of/existential crisis"-not that into you

Guys who have been hurt before/doesnt want to ruin a good friendship/need their space/more time to commit-not that into you

Guys who forgot to call/lost your number/had some sort of  emergency to take care of-not that into you

Etc, Etc.

This book is GREAT. Read it.

Hugs,

Yasmina

I read it, but I just wasn‘t that into it.

Just teasin‘! It was pretty good. What I didn‘t like about it was his tone toward women. Kindo of condescending & patronizing.

My friend recommends "Why Men Marry Bitches." 

Then maybe I‘ll write one called "Why Men RUN from Beotches"!

UB

Persona Non Grata wrote:

It is nice to see you back Yasmina.

 PNG-always good to be here.

I actually agree with your arguments. The puppy love/head over heels romance is or should not be the measuring criteria for a healthy relationship.

To that, the authors are pretty extreme.

I still like the books´ main point that too many women settle for too little-and that it directly quotes some of the excuses that we see from women here on WS: "But he says he luuuuuuvs me!"

I agree with you that one of the problems are that men and women are two completely different species.

Because...how do you know if the communication problems in you relationship are due to differences between men and women or simply because you are imcompatible as persons? Its difficult.

And its difficult to know if you are in the best possible relationship, if all the previous ones you have been in were crap.

Thank GOD I´m single (with cats)

Yasmina

I read that book, and I really liked it!  I thought it was right on the money.

I wish I had read it when I was a lot younger, and a lot more trusting.  It was very enlightening.  I could have spared myself considerable heartache and wasted time.

It is true.  If a man really likes you, he will move heaven and earth to be with you.  Excuses are just that - excuses!  And I - like all women - have made them over men I was goo-goo eyed for. 

Too soon old - too late smart, LOL!

i bought the book and i read it. i gave it to lucy.

it  helped me establish minimum requirements that show he is interested.

alot of this **** could be avoided with simple good manners and honesty.

and no png, we don‘t expect the lovie dovie over the moon phase to last forever but we do expect the mother ****er to call.

all he has to do is call and say...my life is over whelming me...i am running a mile a min with all the **** i have to do in one day and i know you are running too but i want to hear your voice and let you know that the first free hour i have i am gonna haul ass over to your place and smell your cleavage, nuzzle your neck and listen to you for as long as you can talk.

save my spot because i don‘t wanna lose you.