WomanSavers.com Forum / GENERAL / can‘t trust even fatherly professionals!!!

Well, if you hate men then I‘m outta here.  I am one.  I don‘t need to vbe lump-summed in with a bunch of cheaters.

You might want to ratchet-down on the drama posts.

Oh, yeah!  Try telling that to the ex.    The woman despises me because I caught her and took control away from her by divorcing her. 

It‘s actually rather funny considering it‘s been 14 years and she hasn‘t moved beyond it.    

As for Rebecca, she‘ll be fine.  I just have this habit of "calling" people on generalizations.

Rebecca....

Join this site and meet other women who have been professionally exploited by Professionals.I too have been there.You have the right and option to hold him accountable through an Ethics committee and have his license revolked/suspended if you so choose.

Knowledge is power!

You are far from alone..and the distrust you feel is very normal and what he did to you was very harmful and wrong on so many levels...what he did is illegal in some states!

If he was married...or you were...it is not an affair...it is misconduct on the part of the professional...and he is 100% responsible for any and all harm he caused you.NO MATTER WHAT YOU DID!

You were his VICTIM, like it or not...even if you went to him without a "gun to your head".

Please read this site...and join so you get the support you need!!

http://advocateweb.com/hope2/whatissexualexploitation.htm

PM me if you want to know my story...or need some support for having been professionally exploited...you are the FIRST person who has gone through what I have here...and there are very few people who will believe you or understand..if they dont‘ know about Professional Codes Ethics..and standards of practice..

I was blamed for years for having had an affair because both my professional and I were married while he was exploiting his postion and me.

I needed someone to understand,instead I was bashed, which in the long run...caused me more harm than he did.

Wishing you peace in the aftermath of emotional and sexual destruction!

There is light at the end of the tunnel...and for some...empowerment comes in the form of JUSTICE!

Ramble On

I called  fullofcraphouse  and the line was busy.  Same story, different user name. I am also contacting the post police to investigate. Gotta quarter?

As I said Rebecca....you will NOT get the validation or support you need here.And shally...I would LOVE to give you that Quarter!

You are one CYNICAL and DISTRUSTING woman!

I pity you for still being here after 7000 posts!

Do you think you will EVER get over it?

Here‘s to moving on!

Ramble On

 Hi Rebecca,

I sympathise with you. It‘d be a tough position to be in when you‘ve needed someone & he‘s been there for you. But you have to face the facts- he‘s a real jerk. He‘s lining you up for an affair & couldn‘t possibly "care" for you in the true sense of the word. Don‘t feel sorry for him, don‘t give him the time of day. If you have to go back to him  get in & get out. Refuse to get emotional about things you‘ll lose or miss by leaving, that will only prevent you from taking immediate action. Think about what‘s good for you in the long term, what‘s right  for his wife & his children.  Don‘t think of him at all- or your own needs -that‘s where youré going wrong.

 If he‘s not going to be professional  you simply  need to change doctors, no buts about it. And you  need to do so ASAP before it escalates into something else. There are too many women out there who just "go along with it" or pursue something more- (actively or "passively")  because of their own desires, needs & wants- vulnerabilities included.  It‘s totally in your hands to leave- unlike  other domestic type situations or violent assaults.   You  have the power to walk away in this situation, so don‘t hang around or make yourself a willing "victim".

It‘s good you‘ve started  recognising your own weaknesses & naeivety, but for your own sake & that of others, you have to get smart & wisen up. You can‘t be ignorant of the this kind of stuff forever- ie. the way affairs begin or be innocent or child-like  forever. Talk to people about what‘s appropriate & what‘s not,  look at the ways you might be flirting/ giving out the wrong messages  & change anything that sends out mixed messages- your body language, your behaviour, how you act , dress or speak. 

 Draw on the strength, advice & lessons of others who have been thru this kind of thing before so you don‘t get burnt by it. Trust me, there‘s absolutely nothing you would gain from a cheap affair with him- he‘s a selfish rat, & if you don‘t see that now, you will later- & you seem the sensitive type-so that‘s a bad mix!!  Clearly you don‘t want the responsibility of damaging his marriage & family, so the answer is simply to have  NO more contact with  him - no emails, no phone calls, no accepting lifts from him or the like. Be brutal if you have to. Any further contact is simply wrong on your part.

Have the strength, hon, & do what‘s right. You‘ll be better off for it.