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I need all the advice I can get.  Thank you all in advance.

Broke up with him 6 months ago.  Since then, I get calls on my cell phone from credit agencies asking for his dad.  My parents get the same calls on their home phone.  I‘ve also seen him driving by my house, though I would say the last time I saw that was over a month ago.  His latest trick is to have mail (junk mail) sent to my parents house with his name on it.  Just FYI in case you‘re wondering, neither he nor his dad has EVER lived at my parents.

Would you go to the police about this?  I‘ve been ignoring all of this because I know that reacting is exactly what he wants, but it‘s really annoying me now.

Would you contact him just to say, hey, a-hole, stop or I‘m going to go to the police?  I so do not want to contact him AT ALL.

Would you just continue to ignore it?

Thank you all for reading.   Any help would be greatly appreciated! 

I would  return to sender!!

I would inform the credit company‘s they have the wrong number and  let them know you have never heard of this man.  

Now my concern here is!  Run a credit report  make sure that he didnt use you or your parents for anything!!  Run your parents too!

Hi learning!

Well, since he isn‘t really doing anything constituting criminal harassment right now, I would ignore it. But I would definitely keep a watchful eye on how far he goes with this. If he gets cute and tries anything more than the junk mail and credit calls, I would go to the police. You don‘t need him re-inserting himself in your life when you are done with him.

Good luck sweetness!

Solid, sound advice

Learning I would add to this some kind of smug satisfaction here on your part.

Afford yourself a smile that he is sad enough to keep pulling these pathetic stunts. Bomb it all back in the mailbox marked return to sender, not known at this address. Tell who ever calls to remove your numbers from their dialling lists and remind yourself everyday that you are getting on with your life, a better life, without him and he‘s still stuck suffering from "I‘m-a-saddo-syndrome". The medical term for this is LOOSER I believe.

Big cyber hug 

T

Thanks, ladies!!!  I am feeling better just having read your responses.  I will heed all the advice you‘ve given.  I wholeheartedly believe that ignoring him is the best way to go, but very much needed confirmation from all of you.  Thank you.  Thank you. Thank you. 

I do monitor my credit.  It‘s the best $12.95 I spend each month.   My parents do that as well.   Thank goodness for that!!

Much love to all of you!!!  

I toatally agree, run a credit check to make sure he didn‘t use your name or your parents.

And I would file a police report, so just in case something happens then its already on file.

Best of luck to you

hello officer, my ex drives by my house every week or so and he has his mail sent to my parents house to piss me off?

go with momo‘s idea. change his addy to his addy.

the calls will taper off.

i got calls for cakeman for months because when i moved i wanted to keep the same phone number i had for 12 years. big mistake.

after awhile i would just tell the people: that bastard murdered me, just hearing his name makes me hysterical and shaky. never ever ever call here again. later i would add, we are divorced he went missing, bye

plus there‘s alittle thing called, caller i.d.