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If getting "even" is your goal, keep your mouth shut, divert his funds, and divorce.

In the meantime, here‘s an Aspirin.  Hold it tightly between your knees, and don‘t bend over.

Focking another isn‘t going to make him agonize.

Eating beans and passing gas at every opportunity will.  Only then will he realize that the hangover is over.

Keep this in mind, girl -

Once he finds out, and he will...don‘t think for one second he‘ll ever let you forget it - or your child.

The second your child is old enough to know what a hobag is, you‘ll be it.

All joking aside - proceed with caution and think it through.

Men never end up with reputations, except those in the eyes of their wives.  Women, on the other hand, are always labeled "sluts".  By everyone.

I have lived this story myself except that my children were a little older before I found out about my husband‘s first affair.

It is important to get into counseling as a couple.  If you have some assistance with communication it may help.

It is also important to be prepared for the possibility that he will cheat again.  You need to be prepared to raise your child on your own. 

You may want to see a good divorce lawyer to understand the laws in your state.

And save some money in your name alone. 

I stayed with my husband after his first affair and things went pretty well for about 4 or 5 years.  Then, I developed some health problems.  It did not take long for him to start cheating again when I was sick. 

We are separated now.  I am grateful that I got good legal advice after the first affair.  I had a document prepared that included a confession and a financial settlement. 

I am thrilled that he is now dating a younger woman (about 30 years younger than he is).  Someone will need to suppost him in his oild age. 

"Oild age"  hahahahahahahaha!

Sure I  thought about hurting him just as bad.  But you  know what?  Just like you I love him and I want my marriage to work.  It was already in trouble, why add to it? 

Think about it.............could you have a one nighter and go home and rub his nose in it?  Could you actually look him in the eye and tell him straight up what you did?  I think you‘d be crying that you did something so stupid. 

I am two and half years out.  Things are way better now and getting even better.  If you love him and want to salvage your marriage do what ever it takes to make it work.  BUT only as long as he is doing the same and showing you daily how much he loves you and wants it to work too.

So I give the idea a big thumbs down.

Under those circumstances, if the mere fact that a wrong was responded to with another wrong didn‘t sink the marriage, enjoying it most certainly would.

The saying, "Revenge is a dish best eaten cold!" has a lot of truth to it, in my estimation, as does the advice that the best revenge is living well.

In my experience, I never needed to do a thing but forgive, which I did for myself, not her.  She doesn‘t even know it.  She doesn‘t have to.  I went on with my life and prospered while she‘s been run over by the karma train several times.

Perhaps the best action is to take no action at all.