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| yasmina |
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Posted: 12/5/2007 2:39 PM |
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Subject: how to spot an asshole man |
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| supermom21664 wrote: | | When he has tons of accumalated sick days and he will not use 2 in a row to help you get a child home from the hospital thats in a splint from his butt cheek to his toes ......He‘s an asshole. |
Wow..that sounds like a true asshole!
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| used2bsteamed |
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Posted: 12/6/2007 11:14 AM |
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Subject: how to spot an asshole man |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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didn‘t read all the replies ..way too many...
Mine is:
If he has 2 legs and one inbetween , then he is an asshole. j/k
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| twistygirl |
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Posted: 12/6/2007 9:52 PM |
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| lorrie wrote: |
| yasmina wrote: |
| If he´s got an asshole...he´s an asshole |
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I agree!!
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| cosmicgalx |
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Posted: 1/24/2008 1:05 PM |
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Subject: how to spot an asshole man |
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BEWARE THE PORNIFIED MEN!
What
is is obvious to me is that somewhere along the way "pornified men" get
the message that its OK for them to lie and to bully and to criticize
and castigate someone else when they aren‘t doing exactly what you
expect of them. THIS is the definition of toxic bachelor in my book!
Recently I met this guy (friend only) who I was unable to contact for
just one week due to my hectic work schedule and when I contacted him
he wrote back with this ridiculous stereotyping message saying that
had a subject line of " the ice is melting" and then proceeded to call
me an Ice Queen and stereotype me because I was just busy and he was
mean about it too, but instead of making me want to contact him more it
made me want to avoid him now! He told me that he has a bad online
pornography addiction and that he is Catholic and really trying to
stop, but his first wife divorced him because of this and he told me he
had thought of getting a hooker during his marriage, not sure that was
a confession or not??? I knew he had some problems, but I thought I‘d
try to give him a chance, but this is always the case with "problems"
like this....and once someone‘s self esteem has been put on the line
they are bad for everyone and toxic....
[B]disrespecting others = disrespecting yourself and visa versa...[/B]
Once men have been pornified, and this affects the subconscious in
multiple ways that they are not even aware of. It also means that
demeaning/dehumanizing others (especially women and young girls/boys in
porn) and yourself has been part of their personal past history in
terms of using "coping strategies" when life hits the fan.
The subliminal and unconscious messages that they got when they logged
their minds into the world of pornography, are living within their
psyches - and its clear from their treatment of women and personal
statements that these men probably have numerous abject and dehumanized
views of women in their subliminal arsenal, because they got these
messages for years and years from narcissistic media and pornography.
"Ice Queens" and whores, and other names these men call women and other
such concepts about women are not born of themselves, they are taught
and learned by all of us, especially when pornography is the teacher,
and hardcore XXX is the classroom.
Stereotyping is ignorant, and ultimately lacks what GANGAJI and other
guides like Deepak Chopra and Don Miguel Ruiz are calling Vigilance.
Everyone needs to learn about this concept, there are many books about
it becoming a Warrior of the Light. I think this is exactly what
Western Christiandom, and Catholicism lack -- a plan of action to deal
with bullying, manipulative, wayward, rambling, lustful natures. We all
have to work on ourselves, but pornified men are ones to watch out for!Because
the disturbing trend toward all Hardcore XXX has become a reality that
we are all living with and this is impacting the lives of millions of
men, women, and children in the US and beyond; everyone is going to be
involved at one point or another with decision items and legislation on
the topic of obscenity. There was a conference on all this at Denver
University, USA in February 2007 featuring speakers from the
Anti-Pornography Movement (www.againstpornography.org).
Hardcore pornography is desensitizing us all to the reality of sex for
sale in corporate America without nearly any opposition. But what is
really dangerous is the connection with the Death of Empathy it also
purveys. Hardcore pornography injects everyone and anyone that views it
with unconscious messages that sex is about power, dominance, control,
manipulation, and ultimately violence (for an example you can go online
easily and see this anywhere). It destroys and corrodes
connection to real intimacy with its increasingly dehumanizing visuals.
It does not allow real feelings between intimate partners to unfold
without an exchange of material goods and services, objectification,
manipulation, hostility, and subjugation; literally creating a war between the sexes for dominance and power using sex as the primary bargaining chip.
Pornography
is about power, not pleasure, as we are being sold. Hardcore
pornography is not a celebration of human sexuality as the
pornographers tell us, but a mutation of it, denaturalized, violent,
addictive, and hateful.
"As I watched guys trying to prove
their fantasy of manhood--by doing dirt to women, making fun of queers,
putting down people of other religions and races--I realized they were
doing something really negative to me too, because their fear and
hatred of everything "non-manly" was killing off something in me that I
valued."
- Founder of Men Against Pornography (MAP) http://www.xyonline.net/Refusing.shtml
A Man Speaks Against Pornography: Pornography and the Death of Empathy
http://www.southendpress.org/2007/items/87767
Listen
to Robert Jensen‘s discussion of the reach and impact of pornography in
US society on March 9, 2007, produced by WORT-FM. Paraphrasing from
Robert Jensen: "Porn is used to get men in the mood to kill,
there is the military Connection. On pornography and the death of
empathy: men are being trained to ignore the experiences and feelings
of women. Women in pornography are systematically subjected to cruelty
and humiliation. This is a death of empathy. This plays out in public
contexts all the time. It’s a serious problem in this culture. In a
predatory corporate capitalist system, we have to constantly struggle
to reconnect as human beings."
PLEASE PROVE YOUR MASCULINITY SOME OTHER WAY! http://www.oneangrygirl.net ---------------------------------------------------------------------------
BTW , I have been in a verbally abusive situation, and my ex was as
impacted as you can get by narcissistic and sociopathic/dehuamizing
messages of pornography --- once, I was naive to know how this works,
but not anymore. Now I can spot this in a man in a heartbeat, and my oh
my, how many men are just lost in this sea completely unaware of
themselves in this....most men are just not worth this teaching and are
a long way from really getting it....but I hope they will WORK ON
THEMSELVES AND FIND A PATH BACK TO TRUE LOVE.
Everyone suffers when ignorance like this is rampant.
If
you are pornified, and to me, that means you are dangerous and foolish
and unaware of how to control your unconscious mind and negativity and
you are not "vigilant" enough to be in a relationship at any level. I think you should not be in any relationship whilst these demons still possess your subconscious mind.
You
will not mean to, but you will hurt anyone you are with because of this
now matter how you try not to - that is the nature of this beast and
its name is IGNORANCE & UNAWARENSS. Find out who you really
are and you won‘t have to manipulative and force your way by using
through sex or pornography, dehaminizing, castigating, or stereotyping
others. Love this Quote too: If he thinks criticism is a way of "keeping you on your toes"...he´s an asshole.
From "How to Spot an Asshole"
http://www.womansavers.com/forum-for-women/general/1/15929.html
More great Quotes!
Excerpt from Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh‘s book The Art of Power: "All of us want to be powerful and successful. But if our drive to get and maintain power drains us and strains our relationships, we never truly enjoy our professional or material success and it‘s simply not worth it. Living our life deeply and with happiness, having time to care for our loved ones - this is another kind of success , another kind of power, and it is much more important... When
we live without awareness, without the ability to truly see the world
around us, our life is often like a runaway train. this is especially
true of our professional life. If we are consumed by our jobs, we can‘t
stop running. When we suffer in our personal lives, out professional
lives also suffer. When we suffer in our professional lives, our
personal lives also suffer. Heavy workloads, unrealistic deadlines,
difficult working conditions, constant stress, the fear of being
fired--these all cause suffering at work, which then spills into the
rest of our lives. And no one, it seems, can help us. But it
doesn‘t have to be that way. By cultivating our spiritual or true power
and bringing mindfulness to our daily interactions, we can completely
change the quality of our work as well as our work lives." From Gangaji "There
is a great secret that beings throughout time have announced, the
secret of an extraordinary treasure, the treasure of the nectar of
eternal life. It is the nectar of pure beingness, recognizing itself as
consciousness and overflowing in the love of that recognition.
class="EC_quote">If
you imagine yourself to be located in a body, then you will move that
body from place to place, searching for this treasure of nectar. But,
if you will stop all searching right now and tell the truth to
yourself, you will know what is known in the core of your bones. You
will know what these great beings knew and attempted to describe. You
will know it with no image of it, no concept of it, no thought of it.
You will know it as that which has eternally been here. And you will
know it as yourself."
 class="EC_quote"> class="EC_quote"> class="EC_quote">http://www.gangaji.org/ class="EC_quote"> class="EC_quote"> class="EC_quote"> class="EC_quote"> class="EC_quote"> class="EC_quote"> class="EC_quote">www.thesecret.tv class="EC_quote">
The Sorcerer‘s Crossing: A Woman‘s Journey class="EC_quote">http://www.amazon.com/Sorcerers-Crossing-Womans-Journey-Arkana/dp/0140193669 class="EC_quote"> class="EC_quote">The Four Agreements class="EC_quote">http://www.amazon.com/Four-Agreements-Practical-Personal-Freedom/dp/1878424505/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1201125021&sr=1-1 class="EC_quote"> class="EC_quote">The Alchemist
http://www.amazon.com/Alchemist-Plus-Paulo-Coelho/dp/0061122416/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1201125052&sr=1-1
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Posted: 1/24/2008 1:19 PM |
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Subject: how to spot an asshole man |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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| lorrie wrote: | | we need the bump. give us the bummmppp |
....and then there are times you wish you didnt get what you asked for....
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