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meandnotyou
  Posted: 4/23/2007 1:37 AM Subject: tell me what the signs are of a cheating over the road truck driver
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I‘d give you 5, but I‘m afraid you‘d ask for 5 more.

If he‘s cheating on you, sounds like you‘re the kind of girl that would stay anyway.



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  Posted: 4/23/2007 6:50 AM Subject: tell me what the signs are of a cheating over the road truck driver
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Gee meandnotyou:  That was really supportive!  (NOT)

The signs of a cheating truckdriver would be the same as the signs of every other cheating spouse.  Because they are over the road and away from the home, the symptoms may not be as obvious, but any time a man is not calling home and appears to be avoiding you, that is a red flag.

For me, the first signs were diminishing phone calls, and paychecks that were "short" when he was traveling 3000 miles a week.  When it was more than one check that was like that, I was alarmed because it didn‘t make sense that he would only clear $100.00 for a whole week when he‘d put all those miles on the truck, and got paid weekly.  I called the home office, and his fleet manager said, "Check the cash advances."

When he came home, the dead giveaway was that he did not watch me undress, and did not show any real desire for sex - a man who was a typical horndog after being gone for weeks at a time.  That was the first clue.  He would also pick fights when he came home.  I think picking fights gave him an excuse to continue what he was doing.

New bedroom techniques also showed up - things he had never done before. 

Trust your instincts.  There is a lot of sleaze that goes on out there.  And if he is into the lifestyle, you won‘t be able to break him of it.  Cheating is very common in that profession, and lack of respect for women is also common.  I won‘t badmouth the profession, because there are a lot of good men and women out there doing it who are good family people. 

Let him go if you suspect this is what he‘s up to.



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  Posted: 4/23/2007 7:46 AM Subject: tell me what the signs are of a cheating over the road truck driver
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If somebody could give me at least five signs that he is a cheater I would appericate it i am confused i love him but at the same time i can let him go i believe there is another

 woman we use to talk on the phone all the time and now its always his voicemail i am in love but confused

please help



Does he have condoms in his truck, 

Never being able to reach him

Spending money like its nothing,  credit card receipts for dinners that you know are for 2 not one.

cell phone calls to strange numbers

being distant when he calls, like he really dont want to talk to you.

Dating or marrying a trucker  is hard!!  you have to have trust  and a perfect relationship to make it work.



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  Posted: 4/23/2007 12:30 PM Subject: tell me what the signs are of a cheating over the road truck driver
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C‘mon girls, who needs "at least 5 signs" that a guy‘s cheating?!

ONE sign is good enough.  That gets him a hammer upside the head and shown the door.

Any more than that gets his balls hacked off and maybe an ambulance...maybe. 



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  Posted: 4/23/2007 12:42 PM Subject: tell me what the signs are of a cheating over the road truck driver
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C‘mon girls, who needs "at least 5 signs" that a guy‘s cheating?!

ONE sign is good enough.  That gets him a hammer upside the head and shown the door.

Any more than that gets his balls hacked off and maybe an ambulance...maybe. 



Somepeople need signs somepeople dont believe what is right in front of there face.   I am not one to sit and wonder  I thought my husband was having an affair so i went and caught him in the act.  I had to see for myself.  

 



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  Posted: 4/23/2007 1:11 PM Subject: tell me what the signs are of a cheating over the road truck driver
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But did you wait for at least **  number of signs, or was it 1 thing that tipped you off?

In my experience, it‘s usually only one thing that starts to arouse suspicion.  Once my suspicion is aroused, I certainly don‘t wait around thinking: "I‘ll just wait until he does this.  And then this.  Oh, and God help him if he even tries that".

I just don‘t understand why the original poster needs "at least 5 signs".  I guess it‘s the "at least" part that made my hair stand on end.

Let‘s say that there are 10 sure things that indicates a man (or woman) is cheating.  If your partner is only committing 5 of them, I guess there‘s a 50% chance your partner is faithful?  Hogwash.  You‘re still being treated like shit.  

Anything that your partner does that makes you uncomfortable, like hiding condoms, (and they‘re not for you) missing money, etc. means your partner is comfortable enough in the relationship TO TREAT YOU LIKE SHIT.

If it looks like shit and smells like shit, don‘t eat it.



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  Posted: 4/23/2007 7:29 PM Subject: tell me what the signs are of a cheating over the road truck driver
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But did you wait for at least **  number of signs, or was it 1 thing that tipped you off?

In my experience, it‘s usually only one thing that starts to arouse suspicion.  Once my suspicion is aroused, I certainly don‘t wait around thinking: "I‘ll just wait until he does this.  And then this.  Oh, and God help him if he even tries that".

I just don‘t understand why the original poster needs "at least 5 signs".  I guess it‘s the "at least" part that made my hair stand on end.

Let‘s say that there are 10 sure things that indicates a man (or woman) is cheating.  If your partner is only committing 5 of them, I guess there‘s a 50% chance your partner is faithful?  Hogwash.  You‘re still being treated like shit.  

Anything that your partner does that makes you uncomfortable, like hiding condoms, (and they‘re not for you) missing money, etc. means your partner is comfortable enough in the relationship TO TREAT YOU LIKE SHIT.

If it looks like shit and smells like shit, don‘t eat it.



She doesnt want to believe it is true.  Me i saw it with my own eyes.  That way i couldnt convince myself that it wasnt happening.


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  Posted: 4/25/2007 12:25 PM Subject: tell me what the signs are of a cheating over the road truck driver
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You named the top sign of a cheating OTR truck driver, his paycheck in less or none. 1, a man who is supporting his family deposits his whole check into the account so his family can access it. His spouse or significant other come to an agreement on what his expenses will be. My husband has an allowance of 100 dollars per week to spend on food and little things while on the road. He is only driving for one year while we get out of debt and I graduate from graduate school. Together, we know the budget, make plans for our future, and decide together exactly what, when and where on monies. If your man is not doing this than he is single minded, not future, goal and couple orientated.

Next, since I am at home I receive the cell phone bill, review it and make sure our minutes are covered each month without going over which would be very costly. If you do not have access to his cell phone bill or have together this is a single minded man, not a couple minded man.

Third, my husband calls me about 20 times a day, and we talk at bed time also. If I cannot get a hold of him, he calls me back very quickly. He has nothing to hide and I can tell this in our conversations, and his need to talk with me for companionship.

Fourth, I am invited to go at anytime with him anywhere and he likes to take our son also.

Fifth, He is a Christian so I have the added security of  knowing his chances of cheating are slim. He finds talking about C.S. Lewis and other things stimulating.

To sum it up, you must take measure of his character. Does he support you? put you first? always want to talk and keep company with you? make plans with you? does he show a deep caring and concern for you and family? Do you know you are his number one? Does he view sex in a committed, close relationship as healthy and desirable? Does he view porn or talk trash or talk nasty? You can sit down and write the things down that make you not trust him. I refused to acknowledge the character flaws in my first husband and of course he cheated over and over again.



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  Posted: 4/26/2007 5:38 AM Subject: tell me what the signs are of a cheating over the road truck driver
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sagewy wrote:

You named the top sign of a cheating OTR truck driver, his paycheck in less or none. 1, a man who is supporting his family deposits his whole check into the account so his family can access it. His spouse or significant other come to an agreement on what his expenses will be. My husband has an allowance of 100 dollars per week to spend on food and little things while on the road. He is only driving for one year while we get out of debt and I graduate from graduate school. Together, we know the budget, make plans for our future, and decide together exactly what, when and where on monies. If your man is not doing this than he is single minded, not future, goal and couple orientated.

Next, since I am at home I receive the cell phone bill, review it and make sure our minutes are covered each month without going over which would be very costly. If you do not have access to his cell phone bill or have together this is a single minded man, not a couple minded man.

Third, my husband calls me about 20 times a day, and we talk at bed time also. If I cannot get a hold of him, he calls me back very quickly. He has nothing to hide and I can tell this in our conversations, and his need to talk with me for companionship.

Fourth, I am invited to go at anytime with him anywhere and he likes to take our son also.

Fifth, He is a Christian so I have the added security of  knowing his chances of cheating are slim. He finds talking about C.S. Lewis and other things stimulating.

To sum it up, you must take measure of his character. Does he support you? put you first? always want to talk and keep company with you? make plans with you? does he show a deep caring and concern for you and family? Do you know you are his number one? Does he view sex in a committed, close relationship as healthy and desirable? Does he view porn or talk trash or talk nasty? You can sit down and write the things down that make you not trust him. I refused to acknowledge the character flaws in my first husband and of course he cheated over and over again.



why, because a man is christian, is he LESS likely to cheat? i think thats hogwash...i have known, personally, several couples who were devout christians, who went to church all the time, and claimed to live the 10 commandments, who STILL cheated. on the other hand, i have known many couples who are basically agnostic, and they have great relationships. dont assume religion will stop a cheater.

although, i agree with everything else...for those looking to catch a cheater...i am a reformed habitual cheater, and i can tell you from my side, that i lied constantly, and i DID pick fights to avoid real issues, and to place some blame on HIM. and the sad part was...i was caught by BOTH my fiances when they actually got together behind my back, and compared stories. but the REALLY sucky part was, neither of them left. they were mad for awhile, but i still kept both relationships for months after. it only ended with one when i ended it...so ladies...men try and get past cheating, as well, but the truth is, as long as they put up with it, i continued to do it. i not only walked all over them and really hurt them, i lost respect for them for putting up with it. although the lack of respect was more on an unconscious level, it was something i figured out years later.

me?  a bitch?  maybe...but i learned my lessons and trust me, karma HAS bit me in the ass since then. i dont post on here much, but ive said before, cheating is a nasty habit, just like smoking. it goes on all the time, just look at craigslist postings and you will see for yourself how many married guys are looking for side-action, many times with other men! chances are if you re-set your boundaries and decide to work it out with a cheater, it will most likely happen again.

bottom line of this too-long post....where theres smoke, theres usually fire.



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  Posted: 4/26/2007 6:00 AM Subject: tell me what the signs are of a cheating over the road truck driver
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Fifi Larue wrote:
sagewy wrote:

You named the top sign of a cheating OTR truck driver, his paycheck in less or none. 1, a man who is supporting his family deposits his whole check into the account so his family can access it. His spouse or significant other come to an agreement on what his expenses will be. My husband has an allowance of 100 dollars per week to spend on food and little things while on the road. He is only driving for one year while we get out of debt and I graduate from graduate school. Together, we know the budget, make plans for our future, and decide together exactly what, when and where on monies. If your man is not doing this than he is single minded, not future, goal and couple orientated.

Next, since I am at home I receive the cell phone bill, review it and make sure our minutes are covered each month without going over which would be very costly. If you do not have access to his cell phone bill or have together this is a single minded man, not a couple minded man.

Third, my husband calls me about 20 times a day, and we talk at bed time also. If I cannot get a hold of him, he calls me back very quickly. He has nothing to hide and I can tell this in our conversations, and his need to talk with me for companionship.

Fourth, I am invited to go at anytime with him anywhere and he likes to take our son also.

Fifth, He is a Christian so I have the added security of  knowing his chances of cheating are slim. He finds talking about C.S. Lewis and other things stimulating.

To sum it up, you must take measure of his character. Does he support you? put you first? always want to talk and keep company with you? make plans with you? does he show a deep caring and concern for you and family? Do you know you are his number one? Does he view sex in a committed, close relationship as healthy and desirable? Does he view porn or talk trash or talk nasty? You can sit down and write the things down that make you not trust him. I refused to acknowledge the character flaws in my first husband and of course he cheated over and over again.



why, because a man is christian, is he LESS likely to cheat? i think thats hogwash...i have known, personally, several couples who were devout christians, who went to church all the time, and claimed to live the 10 commandments, who STILL cheated. on the other hand, i have known many couples who are basically agnostic, and they have great relationships. dont assume religion will stop a cheater.

although, i agree with everything else...for those looking to catch a cheater...i am a reformed habitual cheater, and i can tell you from my side, that i lied constantly, and i DID pick fights to avoid real issues, and to place some blame on HIM. and the sad part was...i was caught by BOTH my fiances when they actually got together behind my back, and compared stories. but the REALLY sucky part was, neither of them left. they were mad for awhile, but i still kept both relationships for months after. it only ended with one when i ended it...so ladies...men try and get past cheating, as well, but the truth is, as long as they put up with it, i continued to do it. i not only walked all over them and really hurt them, i lost respect for them for putting up with it. although the lack of respect was more on an unconscious level, it was something i figured out years later.

me?  a bitch?  maybe...but i learned my lessons and trust me, karma HAS bit me in the ass since then. i dont post on here much, but ive said before, cheating is a nasty habit, just like smoking. it goes on all the time, just look at craigslist postings and you will see for yourself how many married guys are looking for side-action, many times with other men! chances are if you re-set your boundaries and decide to work it out with a cheater, it will most likely happen again.

bottom line of this too-long post....where theres smoke, theres usually fire.



I agree-we are as Catholic as they get-my husband was an Altar Boy, and we attend Church every Sunday...

Christ in his life didn‘t prevent the affair. However-the thought of divorce and losing me stopped it.

Religion has nothing to do with it-if they worship the Bishop in their pants first.



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  Posted: 4/26/2007 6:36 AM Subject: tell me what the signs are of a cheating over the road truck driver
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I agree.  Some of the most arrogant, swindling, lying shit-heads I‘ve ever met just happen to be "Christian".

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I agree with you many so called christians cheats. We live in a society where almost everyone claims to be christian. However, there are millions of christians out there who would never cheat and are real christians. Do not let the bad ones turn you off to christianity. Jesus was amazing and the first feminist in my opinion. Jesus treated the hurting, the sick, the mentally ill, the poor, women, everyone equally. There are many men out there who love God, live and breathe his word and mean it. Real christian men know that adultry is despised in the new testament. That a man and woman become one before God. A spiritual union and they respect and love that.

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  Posted: 4/30/2007 7:15 AM Subject: tell me what the signs are of a cheating over the road truck driver
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Everyone is human. Christian, Agnostic, atheist, it matters very little. Temptation is temptation. Even Jesus was tempted in the Bible (not sexually). What matters is the person‘s own moral character. The truth is, none of us know for sure whether or not our man would cheat if a gorgeous, busty naked woman was laying in front of him with her legs spread. I would like to believe he wouldn‘t, but I wouldn‘t bet the house on it.

As for the over the road trucker question- My best advice is to go thru his truck one night while he is asleep. Go thru every nook and cranny. If it isn‘t your habit to check on him, chances are he‘s been sloppy about covering his tracks and you will find something.



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Oh! don‘t forget to run a lint roller over his sleeping quarters. Might find some long hairs that aren‘t your shade of clairol.

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  Posted: 5/1/2007 3:59 AM Subject: tell me what the signs are of a cheating over the road truck driver
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Fifi Larue:  I really appreciate your posting about your past because it really gives an inside perspective as to why people cheat.  It takes a lot of courage to put up a post like that, and I think if more people knew that that is how a cheater thinks and feels, they would have real second thoughts about staying in relationships like that.

It takes a lot of honesty to say those things, and I am pretty sure that is what was going through my ex-husband‘s mind when he was out there doing it.  Some keep doing it just because the spouse stays. 

Thanks for being so open.

 



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my husband is an OTR driver, i know he was an altar boy too, my post explains things.. but anyways my husband started going to church as a family with us and was STILL having his affair.. He was sending her cards that said "THROUGH GOD we can cross any bridge and crap like that.. Now he says his marriage is a sacriment and he would never do that again.  Well he was still saying crap on the internet to woman saying he was single or his ex wife (me i guess) you know MEN SUCK thats all i can say.  I think i am actually going to hire a PI in the area to see if what he says he is doing is what he is doing.  He claims to go to bed at 8:30 on nights he is at a hotel room and the local pubs are walking distance so MY ADVICE< spend a couple hundred when you know where he is.. Hell call CHEATERS tv show ........ I would do that by my husband drives for a company and would be fired.. Still would need child support!



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