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| Luca |
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Posted: 8/19/2005 6:28 PM |
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Subject: Abused Married didnt know he was unfaithful HELP |
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New WomanSaver
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my name is Luca..i married the wonderful childhood sweetheart..everything was wonderful he and i against the world honesty wasnt an issue...until i found condoms. drugs,funny numbers on his pager and his secretivness. OMG my world crushed! He beats me bad sometimes but stopped that whene i had him tell me all he has done. I acted like i LOVED sexy real stories and he started coming out with stuff a few beers didnt hurt either.WARNING TO ALL WOMEN! I MY HUSBAND WORKS AS A TELEPHONE INSTALL MAN AND WOMEN COMEON TO HIM ALL THE TIME COME TO DOOR WITH NOTHING ALL ETC..HE ENDED UP MOVING IN WITH ONE AS A SECOND WIFE AND ON LUNCH BREAK OR AFTER WORK WILL GO BACK TO SCREW THHEM! I AM DEVASTTED!ONE WAS EVEN AN OLD LADY..BECAREFULL IF YOUR HUSBAND /BOYFRIEND HAS A JOB LIKE UTILITIES! I AM NOW HEARING AT THEIR OFFICE THESE GUYS DO IT ALL THE TIME AND MY HUSBAND LOVES ATTENTION AND TO SEE IF HE IS ALL THAT WHICH HE ISNT IN BED OR IN BRAINS AND ETC. He lies all the time over nothing many times..he blows it off as oh i didnt know wha ti was doing and he says sorry like it takes it all away. becareful all about how is paging or calling cell phone and when he is suppsed work and get off.I never ever wanted to be the kind of wife who pries that looks at pager and in pockets and wallet> that is totaly aginst what i am but it was the only way found out things. he takes a backpack to work and it doesnt leave it out of his sight unless he locks it in car. i realy love him but that person i married is gone i dont know what to do..be quiet and try to getmore details or keep checking things like i dont know whats gong on..or go craxy and meet or call who all i know please any ideas? his name is frederick pulley..in california...he acts sweet and wonderful to me after being with someone..he even invited me to his works christmas party and i was all happy and excited he said yes i want to show u off but the first woman that i know of ws there (shes a co worker) and i let them dance alot thinking just friends let him have fun..all the while i find out , he ws screwing her at that time and she was there! they had a good laught at me the fool all night being made a fool is horrible they threw it in my face..he told me that that night after he was "with" me he went out and wanted to go to her room! he is still doing it he is very very violent, uses drugs, he has a carming exterior but watch out he even "did" my mom and mentaly handicapped women and tried married ones in front of their men...if u see him please let me know knowledge is power..dr phil says once a cheater always a cheater..so try..and you actions today predict future out come , that is sooo true! i dont know what to do i am so heart broken he is still trying to woo me any ideats please help luca
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Posted: 8/19/2005 6:32 PM |
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Subject: Abused Married didnt know he was unfaithful HELP |
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Be very careful if your man comes in contact with the public alone at their home! Like desperate housewives they always come on to him and and do them...i know he started cheating when he got transferd a ways away..i was raising 4 teens alone at the time! dont let your man get transfered if close dont ! and if not too far relocte too i didnt becasue it was supposed to be a quick thing thank u all so much i picked luca as screenname beasue it fits me so much and natalie cole‘s music
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Posted: 8/20/2005 11:45 AM |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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| Luca wrote: |
| i realy love him but that person i married is gone i dont know what to do |
Divorce him. Love does not include hitting or beating or cheating. What ever you are holding on to amounts to lieing to your self. He neither loves you or respects you. He is a liar.
Get an attorney and start the process.
You said it yourself, the man you married is gone, he is just not worth it.
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Posted: 8/22/2005 10:34 PM |
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Thank you both for responding to my post. And yes you are so right it is what I need to know> I want a happy safe future. This site is exactly what i needed and has mountains of help and support. All of you are such encouragement. I hope i will be able to help some of you thank you again so much. I appoligize for all my mispellings and horrible sentences, I was very hurt and upset and he was due to be home soon when i wrote it .. luca
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Posted: 8/23/2005 1:38 AM |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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| Luca wrote: | Thank you both for responding to my post. And yes you are so right it is what I need to know> I want a happy safe future. This site is exactly what i needed and has mountains of help and support. All of you are such encouragement. I hope i will be able to help some of you thank you again so much. I appoligize for all my mispellings and horrible sentences, I was very hurt and upset and he was due to be home soon when i wrote it .. luca
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 Your welcome anytime Luca, feel free to join in any of the forums you wish. There are lots of women who can benefit from your experiences.
Happiness and safety should always be first on your list, he can take a back seat for a change.
Dont worry about spelling and all, you were/are mad at this guy! no worries ;)
When you make a plan, stick to it, dont let him co-erce you back into the suffering you are going thru now. He will kick and scream to keep you where he wants you, that includes false promises and lovey-lies...he‘ll tell you exactly what it takes, and likely what you want to hear to do so.
When you get that "gut feeling", listen to it, dont hesitate to act immediately to self-protect.
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I hope you can get out with a minimum of pain Luca, the love you offered this guy never deserved to be abused.
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Posted: 8/23/2005 9:57 AM |
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take care of yourself and good luck
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