I could say my life has been pretty normal until the last 6 months when the sky fell on me. I meet the perfect guy in my freshman year in college and we feel deeply in love and a month relationship turned into a 7 year relationship ending in marriage last year. I had it all, a handsome, 6‘3" , down to earth guy who loved me dearly (well, that‘s what I thought), a perfect LA dream house, good job, and dream car.
On the 3rd day of our wedding night, my world turned up side down when his phone ran in the middle of the night and I picked it up. It was a woman on the other end. I confronted him and he confessed to me that he had meet this woman from a whore house. He said he was very sorry and that he would never do it again. I cried myself to sleep for the next weeks. How could my marriage go bad so quickly, just on the first week? Who I am? Britney Spears, Nicky Hilton? Like a woman who loves his man dearly and has compassion, I forgave him.
Our lives continued normal, work, friends, social. I later got pregnant 3 months later. On the 7th week of pregnancy, I got a miscarriage. I was devastated but I am young and I could always have babies later on. So I overcome the event by over packing myself with work. I still managed to come home daily and make dinner for my husband, enjoy a movie and make love every other day.
Six months ago, my husband had disagreement with his work and decided to quit his job. I fully supported him and told him to find a new job with patience. Then, hell fell again on me. One night, I woke up not fiding my husband lying next to me. I toured the house, and found him whispering on the house phone. His actions were very obvious to me. He was having an affair. I confronted him again and realized that he went to a whore house again and this time, he confess to me that he was in love with the hooker.
I tried fixing our relationship, but even if fix, would I ever trust him again. The answer was "NO". Therefore, we are now going through divorce.
I am trying to build my life alone and looking for my own happiness. Trying to sell the house we onced shared together because I can‘t no longer stand being in it.
For all those married woman who have cheating spouses, I would say, ask yourself the following questions:
1) Would you ever trust him again if he came back?
2) Will you be happy with him?
3) Do you want to spend the rest of your life, in panic and suspicion?
Do not be afraid of being alone. There‘s like 1 billion people on this planet. Go out, socialize, build up your own career and find your comfort zone. Life doesn‘t end because he is not around. It‘s actually an opportunity to start "Your" own life, a second chance. Live, this time for you.