WomanSavers.com Forum / ASK SUSAN BARTELSTONE, CERTIFIED CRIME PREVENTION AND PERSONAL SAFETY SPECIALIST / Bad past

Hi my name is Halina, i‘m 18 i‘v been with my man for almost 4 years now, and I just got married sep, 21 09. Me and my husband have had problems in the past, he cheated on me 22 diffrent times with both men and woman. And he ended up "giving" me something from a prositute.(even tho it was cured) its still heartbreaking. We got married 2 years after i found out..so everything was kind of blown over. But a 3 weeks after we got married he told me about this girl at his work he has been flurting with (I tricked him into telling me). So now its a bit confusing, i feel like the past might repeat itself very soon. He has 4 email addresses right now, and he only checks them when im sleeping. I‘m trying to trust him and not think of it as anything. but im not sure.

He cheated on you 22 times, gave you an STD, only checks his email when you‘re sleeping and now he‘s flirting with a girl at work.   Well now, there‘s 25 reasons to leave him.  That‘s what I would do anyway.  I‘m sorry, but there‘s nothing in your post that implies any love for you from this man.

In my opinion, this relationship doesn‘t bode well for you on any conceivable level that I can think of.  You absolutely MUST seek professional help to sort out your feelings, clarify the issues involved and see this man in the cold hard light of common sense and reason. 

Please take action immediately.  Don‘t waste anymore of your youth or your life in this situation when you may have very viable options that will ultimately allow you to find happiness.  The cost of inaction might be considerable.