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| c12girl |
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Posted: 1/28/2009 5:48 AM |
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my boyfriend and I have been living together for 5 months. we have a wonderful relationship, and we fell in Love quickly, but in the last couple of weeks he has been distance. and has shown little affection towards me. he says he needs space and we need to slow down, but he does care for me. Is this just a cover up so he can date other people?. when he goes out with his friends all night or works late he does not call me to check in but calls his son who i take care of when he is not home. I want to trust him but sometimes its hard. do I worry or not
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| Margie29 |
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Posted: 1/28/2009 6:46 AM |
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Subject: confused |
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my boyfriend and I have been living together for 5 months. we have a wonderful relationship, and we fell in Love quickly, but in the last couple of weeks he has been distance. and has shown little affection towards me. he says he needs space and we need to slow down, but he does care for me. Is this just a cover up so he can date other people?. when he goes out with his friends all night or works late he does not call me to check in but calls his son who i take care of when he is not home. I want to trust him but sometimes its hard. do I worry or not
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You‘re living together, taking care of his kid when he‘s not home, and he wants to slow down???
He‘s using you. I would tell him to hire a sitter and not be his doormat anymore. If he can afford to go out all nite with his buds, he can afford someone to look after his kid.
You need to draw some boundaries now, before you fall into the trap of being his spineless house-marm. Reclaim your free time for yourself.
You can tell him to either shape up or ship out. You don‘t need any boys applying for a man‘s job.
Lots of luck, because if you don‘t put your foot down, you‘re gonna need it.
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| Rhiannon |
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Posted: 1/29/2009 6:38 AM |
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He‘s probably met someone else, and he‘s just taking advantage of you.
I‘d "give him his space" all right. I would pack my bags.
Don‘t settle for being his maid and his babysitter. You deserve more out of life.
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| jmc218 |
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Posted: 2/8/2009 8:24 PM |
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Yes it‘s been four years since i found out my husband was seeing someone else. I found out six months after the fact. He broke down and told me everything. at one point he broke it off and we went to couseling. Only to find out he started seeing her again a week later. He had moved out. There were still times when he came over that we would sleep together. Then there was a nasty fight and i thought that was it. Well as the years have gone on i have tried everything to move on. i filed divorce but he says he doesn‘t want one. He does not want me to see anyone. He has for the past year or so been telling me how big of a mistake he has made and he has regrets and wants us back. We still having been sleeping together. All my friends say he‘s getting his cake and eating it to. He swears up and down that‘s not it. If that‘s all it was it would of been over a long time ago and he wouldn‘t think of me or still love me. Yes they still live together and all he says is he needs to get his life straightened out. One excuse he uses about her not gone yet is he thinks she will destroy his stuff. We should be celebrating twelve years. I don‘t know what to believe. He tells me so much. Even after all this i can say i do still love him. He was one of the good guys that went bad. I just feel like if he really wanted our family back and does love me then he would make it happen. To this day he swears he has not DONE anything with her. I don‘t know that‘s why i am hoping maybe someone can give me advice. the advice from all my friends is move on, he‘s using you etc. Can someone really be so screwed up in the head that they make excuses for everything? And can someone who has cheated to this extreme ever be trusted and totally commited to one person again? Like i said i do love him and my children are not dumb they know what is going on when he tells me he wants to talk. any advice, suggestions or anything would be greatly appreciated. this has controlled my life now for four years. Do i believe what he is saying or not?
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