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| starlett68 |
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Posted: 4/21/2008 7:57 PM |
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when will I accept the fact that he will never put his children first ? He rather care for other people then his own children. Should I leave the state and drop child support and hide and start over without ever thinking of him ? It‘s been two years since he seen these kids and I‘m tired of asking him to. Would moving help the kids and I forget him ? They ask me all the time if he has called, he calls lots time then sometimes he don‘t. Would moving to other state help us, he wouldnt care, he would love me to drop the child support.
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Posted: 4/22/2008 3:49 PM |
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| starlett68 wrote: | when will I accept the fact that he will never put his children first ? He rather care for other people then his own children. Should I leave the state and drop child support and hide and start over without ever thinking of him ? It‘s been two years since he seen these kids and I‘m tired of asking him to. Would moving help the kids and I forget him ? They ask me all the time if he has called, he calls lots time then sometimes he don‘t. Would moving to other state help us, he wouldnt care, he would love me to drop the child support.
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Do not drop the CS order! If he chooses to put other people before his kids then it is going to be his loss. Those kids will know who does for them. Keep your chin up!
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Posted: 4/22/2008 4:02 PM |
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| supermom21664 wrote: |
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when will I accept the fact that he will never put his children first ? He rather care for other people then his own children. Should I leave the state and drop child support and hide and start over without ever thinking of him ? It‘s been two years since he seen these kids and I‘m tired of asking him to. Would moving help the kids and I forget him ? They ask me all the time if he has called, he calls lots time then sometimes he don‘t. Would moving to other state help us, he wouldnt care, he would love me to drop the child support.
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Do not drop the CS order! If he chooses to put other people before his kids then it is going to be his loss. Those kids will know who does for them. Keep your chin up! |
I feel like walking off with the kids to where he knows nothing. I get so tired of staying on him about paying it. It‘s added stress. Guess I‘m at a point to where I don‘t care about it any more, rather be done with it all , try to get my life back like it was before I ever met him.
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Posted: 4/29/2008 8:11 AM |
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It‘s about power and control. As soon as you leave, he will want to see them because you made a decision without his permission. Women often ‘want‘ a daddy for their children without consideration that addicts, abusers, and psychopaths (who never want anything to do with their children) make not only terrible fathers but leave LASTING AND PERMANENT damage to children. Fathers like this should be left alone and you should do the rearing.
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Posted: 4/29/2008 11:21 AM |
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| sandrabrown wrote: | | It‘s about power and control. As soon as you leave, he will want to see them because you made a decision without his permission. Women often ‘want‘ a daddy for their children without consideration that addicts, abusers, and psychopaths (who never want anything to do with their children) make not only terrible fathers but leave LASTING AND PERMANENT damage to children. Fathers like this should be left alone and you should do the rearing. |
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Posted: 4/29/2008 5:08 PM |
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my best friend at work, gaye, she had three kids with her stinking ex. he never showed or did anything at all.
when her(their) oldest daughter was in the hospital the younger children had him over their house to stay, big dinners, long chats catching up and my friend felt betrayed.
she did all the work, a good job to boot and she is hurt that he can now waltz in and enjoy all the fruits of her labor and her children are just letting his long absence and lack of any interest or suppport for the last 20 years, go.
so don‘t be suprised if he leaves all the work to you and then drops by when he is old, alone or sick, like my friends ex, he is terminal and now looking for his family to help him?
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Posted: 4/30/2008 2:57 PM |
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They will sure do that--they are all about perks, status, power or dominance so whenever they can scoop one of them up, they‘ll be around. Hopefully her kids won‘t fall for that one and will blow him off like the fart he is!
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