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Posted: 3/3/2010 10:14 AM |
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I got some question maybe you guys can help me. I have the feeling he will do something. Right know he allways in a bad mood. Yesterday his sister called and ask me about how old my son is and in what grade he is in. Normaly there never call me. Do this looks not suspicious. Can he take my son from me and bring him to his sister? And can he kick me out on the street. Oh, God i‘m so confused and i dont know what to do. I think someone tell him this to do or what you guys think. Why he dont let me go back to germany with my son? He allways say i can but not my son and without my son i dont leave. You guys have some ideas for me.
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You need to seek legal help sweetie, but don‘t let him know.
Play like you are going to just drop everything and put up with his crap, but get legal help and advice asap. Yes, it looks very suspicious that his sister is asking about your son if they normally don‘t care. They could possibly be making arrangements of some sort for him to go to school there or in a boarding school where you have no idea where he is, but then again....doesn‘t it kind of sound a bit like a movie plot? Still, it can happen. Especially to someone that doesn‘t know her rights.
I mean her asking in general doesn‘t mean anything is going on, because wouldn‘t she go to her brother with those questions to keep you from getting suspicious? For all we know she could just be asking so she knows what to get him for his birthday or something.
I don‘t care if you are from Germany or the North Pole, you have RIGHTS as your sons mother. If your child was born in the US you could get a divorce and stay here with your child if granted custody. If granted full custody you might even get the right to go back to Germany with him You need to start building your case now. There is even free legal aide out there for people that cannot afford it. If they take your child from you before you are divorced or even separated, i believe you can actually file charges of kidnapping against the sister, unless your husband moves with him too, then it would take a temporary court order to get him back to you.
It sounds as if he is trying to get his son, full custody, and ship you back to Germany with no "anchor baby" to keep you here. The way he has it worked out in his mind, IF this is what he is trying to do, is you would be out of his life and he would be able to do what he wants. Doesn‘t mean it‘s possible for him to do it. Which is why you need legal advice.
I‘m sorry if anything I said scared you. You sound terrified of losing your son, and I would be too. Was your son born in the United States? If not, and he was born in Germany, you have more rights than you know to take him home.
Remember, this is all JUST my opinion.
OH!! And the answer is NO!! He cannot kick you out of the house. You are married and until the divorce is done and the courts decide who has to leave the domicile, there is nothing he can do. Even a landlord has to go through courts to evict someone. They have to file for an eviction order. Once the eviction papers are served the tenant has 30 days, and the tenant can even appeal the eviction... It is much harder for someone to try to kick their spouse out, unless the spouse is physically violent. Even then the police will just take you away for a day or two and you can go right back home. If he doesn‘t let you in, you can call the police. You have rights. Yes, you do!!!
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Posted: 3/4/2010 3:51 AM |
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| moogleangelgirl wrote: | You need to seek legal help sweetie, but don‘t let him know.
Play like you are going to just drop everything and put up with his crap, but get legal help and advice asap. Yes, it looks very suspicious that his sister is asking about your son if they normally don‘t care. They could possibly be making arrangements of some sort for him to go to school there or in a boarding school where you have no idea where he is, but then again....doesn‘t it kind of sound a bit like a movie plot? Still, it can happen. Especially to someone that doesn‘t know her rights.
I mean her asking in general doesn‘t mean anything is going on, because wouldn‘t she go to her brother with those questions to keep you from getting suspicious? For all we know she could just be asking so she knows what to get him for his birthday or something.
I don‘t care if you are from Germany or the North Pole, you have RIGHTS as your sons mother. If your child was born in the US you could get a divorce and stay here with your child if granted custody. If granted full custody you might even get the right to go back to Germany with him You need to start building your case now. There is even free legal aide out there for people that cannot afford it. If they take your child from you before you are divorced or even separated, i believe you can actually file charges of kidnapping against the sister, unless your husband moves with him too, then it would take a temporary court order to get him back to you.
It sounds as if he is trying to get his son, full custody, and ship you back to Germany with no "anchor baby" to keep you here. The way he has it worked out in his mind, IF this is what he is trying to do, is you would be out of his life and he would be able to do what he wants. Doesn‘t mean it‘s possible for him to do it. Which is why you need legal advice.
I‘m sorry if anything I said scared you. You sound terrified of losing your son, and I would be too. Was your son born in the United States? If not, and he was born in Germany, you have more rights than you know to take him home.
Remember, this is all JUST my opinion.
OH!! And the answer is NO!! He cannot kick you out of the house. You are married and until the divorce is done and the courts decide who has to leave the domicile, there is nothing he can do. Even a landlord has to go through courts to evict someone. They have to file for an eviction order. Once the eviction papers are served the tenant has 30 days, and the tenant can even appeal the eviction... It is much harder for someone to try to kick their spouse out, unless the spouse is physically violent. Even then the police will just take you away for a day or two and you can go right back home. If he doesn‘t let you in, you can call the police. You have rights. Yes, you do!!!
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Thanks you for let me know.
My Son has duo citizen he was born in germany, I have the papers for there. I called the german embassy and asked if i can leave back to germany. There said i cant without my husbands permission. If i do i can get charge with kidnapping.
He allways say i cant leave with our son, but today when i asked him let me leave he say i dont hold you. But he know that i have no passport for my son . What he try to do. I know everytime when i he say i can leave then later on he change his mind and say you can go but not my son. What can i do, i‘m so lost and hurt.
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Posted: 3/4/2010 6:02 AM |
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This is an article that kind of relates, It makes me think that if you can get full custody you might be able to take him back, BUT the link below the first is for an international family lawyer in your area. There are some helpful links on that page that might help you.
http://en.allexperts.com/q/German-Law-1364/2009/2/return-children-California-2.htm
http://www.brycenlaw.com/PracticeAreas/International-Family-Law.asp
Might even try calling to see what they can tell you.
Have you ever considered staying in the US if you get divorced? If they let you, I dont know immigration law that well, you really should. If only so your son would be able to grow up seeing both parents. I think you staying in the country, or intent to stay, would also increase your chances of getting primary custody of your child. I‘m pretty sure a US court would look down on you wanting to take the child away from the father completely and grant him primary custody for that reason. Look up those websites, then get legal advice. This is all I can do, I wish I could offer more help for your situation.
Do you work? You have to be able to support yourself and your child for primary custody. Has your husband cheated on you? If so do you have proof? Is he physically abusive? Again this might help your case. If the answer to those is no, you might want to shift your focus from taking your child back to Germany to staying in the country and getting primary custody of your son.
Your husband might be doing all this in fear that you will try to slip out of his life and back to Germany with your son in tow, leaving him without his child. It would probably break his heart too. He might be just as scared as you are.
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| moogleangelgirl wrote: | This is an article that kind of relates, It makes me think that if you can get full custody you might be able to take him back, BUT the link below the first is for an international family lawyer in your area. There are some helpful links on that page that might help you.
http://en.allexperts.com/q/German-Law-1364/2009/2/return-children-California-2.htm
http://www.brycenlaw.com/PracticeAreas/International-Family-Law.asp
Might even try calling to see what they can tell you.
Have you ever considered staying in the US if you get divorced? If they let you, I dont know immigration law that well, you really should. If only so your son would be able to grow up seeing both parents. I think you staying in the country, or intent to stay, would also increase your chances of getting primary custody of your child. I‘m pretty sure a US court would look down on you wanting to take the child away from the father completely and grant him primary custody for that reason. Look up those websites, then get legal advice. This is all I can do, I wish I could offer more help for your situation.
Do you work? You have to be able to support yourself and your child for primary custody. Has your husband cheated on you? If so do you have proof? Is he physically abusive? Again this might help your case. If the answer to those is no, you might want to shift your focus from taking your child back to Germany to staying in the country and getting primary custody of your son.
Your husband might be doing all this in fear that you will try to slip out of his life and back to Germany with your son in tow, leaving him without his child. It would probably break his heart too. He might be just as scared as you are.
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Ok thanks i will call there and check the websites.
I dont work rightknow must get my resident alien card renewed. My parents have send me the money that i can do it.
My husband cheat on me before and i thinks he is involved with a female right know. He is changing a lot going every morning at 4.30am out the house and say he is going working out in the Gym. He work starts at 8.00am. I dont think he work every day for 2 or 3 hours out. Then his cellphone never leave his side and is locked too.
I‘m scared to stay here in the states alone and i dont know how much help i get to get a place to stay and etc.
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| moogleangelgirl wrote: | This is an article that kind of relates, It makes me think that if you can get full custody you might be able to take him back, BUT the link below the first is for an international family lawyer in your area. There are some helpful links on that page that might help you.
http://en.allexperts.com/q/German-Law-1364/2009/2/return-children-California-2.htm
http://www.brycenlaw.com/PracticeAreas/International-Family-Law.asp
Might even try calling to see what they can tell you.
Have you ever considered staying in the US if you get divorced? If they let you, I dont know immigration law that well, you really should. If only so your son would be able to grow up seeing both parents. I think you staying in the country, or intent to stay, would also increase your chances of getting primary custody of your child. I‘m pretty sure a US court would look down on you wanting to take the child away from the father completely and grant him primary custody for that reason. Look up those websites, then get legal advice. This is all I can do, I wish I could offer more help for your situation.
Do you work? You have to be able to support yourself and your child for primary custody. Has your husband cheated on you? If so do you have proof? Is he physically abusive? Again this might help your case. If the answer to those is no, you might want to shift your focus from taking your child back to Germany to staying in the country and getting primary custody of your son.
Your husband might be doing all this in fear that you will try to slip out of his life and back to Germany with your son in tow, leaving him without his child. It would probably break his heart too. He might be just as scared as you are.
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Ok thanks i will call there and check the websites. I dont work rightknow must get my resident alien card renewed. My parents have send me the money that i can do it. My husband cheat on me before and i thinks he is involved with a female right know. He is changing a lot going every morning at 4.30am out the house and say he is going working out in the Gym. He work starts at 8.00am. I dont think he work every day for 2 or 3 hours out. Then his cellphone never leave his side and is locked too. I‘m scared to stay here in the states alone and i dont know how much help i get to get a place to stay and etc.
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i know it‘s very scary. I was afraid after my divorce to be on my own too, and I‘m a citizen. I can only imagine how hard it is on someone from another country. Remember, if you can get primary custody of your child, he will have to pay you child support. That and with a job you should be able to support yourselves. You might not be rich, but you will have your son and that is the most important thing isnt it?
Keep us posted, we‘ll help where we can and try to find you websites that might help you out.
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One more thing. YOU NEED SOME GAL PALS!!! lol
A good female friend could help show you how to check his phone and whatnot. We cant do that since we are here online so far away from you. They could also help you find other clues, things you havent even thought about looking for.
Try making some friends out where you live. I know it‘s hard right now, you have so much to deal with, but it would be highly beneficial to have some friends you can trust in this difficult time for support and even more ideas. Of course we will always be here for you as well 
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| moogleangelgirl wrote: |
This is an article that kind of relates, It makes me think that if you can get full custody you might be able to take him back, BUT the link below the first is for an international family lawyer in your area. There are some helpful links on that page that might help you.
http://en.allexperts.com/q/German-Law-1364/2009/2/return-children-California-2.htm
http://www.brycenlaw.com/PracticeAreas/International-Family-Law.asp
Might even try calling to see what they can tell you.
Have you ever considered staying in the US if you get divorced? If they let you, I dont know immigration law that well, you really should. If only so your son would be able to grow up seeing both parents. I think you staying in the country, or intent to stay, would also increase your chances of getting primary custody of your child. I‘m pretty sure a US court would look down on you wanting to take the child away from the father completely and grant him primary custody for that reason. Look up those websites, then get legal advice. This is all I can do, I wish I could offer more help for your situation.
Do you work? You have to be able to support yourself and your child for primary custody. Has your husband cheated on you? If so do you have proof? Is he physically abusive? Again this might help your case. If the answer to those is no, you might want to shift your focus from taking your child back to Germany to staying in the country and getting primary custody of your son.
Your husband might be doing all this in fear that you will try to slip out of his life and back to Germany with your son in tow, leaving him without his child. It would probably break his heart too. He might be just as scared as you are.
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Ok thanks i will call there and check the websites.
I dont work rightknow must get my resident alien card renewed. My parents have send me the money that i can do it.
My husband cheat on me before and i thinks he is involved with a female right know. He is changing a lot going every morning at 4.30am out the house and say he is going working out in the Gym. He work starts at 8.00am. I dont think he work every day for 2 or 3 hours out. Then his cellphone never leave his side and is locked too.
I‘m scared to stay here in the states alone and i dont know how much help i get to get a place to stay and etc. |
i know it‘s very scary. I was afraid after my divorce to be on my own too, and I‘m a citizen. I can only imagine how hard it is on someone from another country. Remember, if you can get primary custody of your child, he will have to pay you child support. That and with a job you should be able to support yourselves. You might not be rich, but you will have your son and that is the most important thing isnt it?
Keep us posted, we‘ll help where we can and try to find you websites that might help you out. |
Thanks for the nice support. I know i can leave alone, but i‘m scared. I will let you know what i will find and what for help i get. Thanks again
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| moogleangelgirl wrote: | One more thing. YOU NEED SOME GAL PALS!!! lol
A good female friend could help show you how to check his phone and whatnot. We cant do that since we are here online so far away from you. They could also help you find other clues, things you havent even thought about looking for.
Try making some friends out where you live. I know it‘s hard right now, you have so much to deal with, but it would be highly beneficial to have some friends you can trust in this difficult time for support and even more ideas. Of course we will always be here for you as well
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Thanks i hope i find a good and honest friend here. i will see
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There are questions that you should be asking an attorney. Find a good divorce lawyer, and fire these questions there. I don‘t know how it works if you are not a US citizen. I would get legal advice before making any decisions.
In most states, yes, a husband can legally kick you out of the house. All it takes is an ex parte restraining order. It largely depends on which state you live in, what the laws are in that state, but again, how the law applies if you are not a US citizen. Whatever you do - do not let your husband know that you are worried about this. Keep your mouth shut and say nothing until you have all the facts.
Know all of your rights before you do anything.
I am sorry you are going through this. It sounds very disconcerting and scary. Please continue to post. And see a lawyer.
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| Rhiannon wrote: | | There are questions that you should be asking an attorney. Find a good divorce lawyer, and fire these questions there. I don‘t know how it works if you are not a US citizen. I would get legal advice before making any decisions. In most states, yes, a husband can legally kick you out of the house. All it takes is an ex parte restraining order. It largely depends on which state you live in, what the laws are in that state, but again, how the law applies if you are not a US citizen. Whatever you do - do not let your husband know that you are worried about this. Keep your mouth shut and say nothing until you have all the facts. Know all of your rights before you do anything. I am sorry you are going through this. It sounds very disconcerting and scary. Please continue to post. And see a lawyer. |
"Note that in divorce settlements and custody battles, a judge may want to hear both sides of the dispute before an ex parte restraining order is issued." quote from the link below:
http://www.ehow.com/how_2140122_file-ex-parte-restraining-order.html
She still has rights, he has to have cause such as threat or harassment.
It‘s not as easy as it looks, I tried kicking my ex out before. Wasn‘t too easy with my word against his and this was before the abuse started. Then again that was many years ago, i havent heard of this kind or R-order. I hope for her sake the judge would decide to hear her side. I doubt he would make her leave, having nowhere to go and being from another country with a child living here.
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| Rhiannon wrote: | There are questions that you should be asking an attorney. Find a good divorce lawyer, and fire these questions there. I don‘t know how it works if you are not a US citizen. I would get legal advice before making any decisions.
In most states, yes, a husband can legally kick you out of the house. All it takes is an ex parte restraining order. It largely depends on which state you live in, what the laws are in that state, but again, how the law applies if you are not a US citizen. Whatever you do - do not let your husband know that you are worried about this. Keep your mouth shut and say nothing until you have all the facts.
Know all of your rights before you do anything.
I am sorry you are going through this. It sounds very disconcerting and scary. Please continue to post. And see a lawyer. |
thanks for you advice. I called today the legal adivice and there say today or tomorrow a lawyer will contact me and talking about my situtation. I let you know what he tell me.
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There are questions that you should be asking an attorney. Find a good divorce lawyer, and fire these questions there. I don‘t know how it works if you are not a US citizen. I would get legal advice before making any decisions.
In most states, yes, a husband can legally kick you out of the house. All it takes is an ex parte restraining order. It largely depends on which state you live in, what the laws are in that state, but again, how the law applies if you are not a US citizen. Whatever you do - do not let your husband know that you are worried about this. Keep your mouth shut and say nothing until you have all the facts.
Know all of your rights before you do anything.
I am sorry you are going through this. It sounds very disconcerting and scary. Please continue to post. And see a lawyer. |
"Note that in divorce settlements and custody battles, a judge may want to hear both sides of the dispute before an ex parte restraining order is issued." quote from the link below:
http://www.ehow.com/how_2140122_file-ex-parte-restraining-order.html
She still has rights, he has to have cause such as threat or harassment.
It‘s not as easy as it looks, I tried kicking my ex out before. Wasn‘t too easy with my word against his and this was before the abuse started. Then again that was many years ago, i havent heard of this kind or R-order. I hope for her sake the judge would decide to hear her side. I doubt he would make her leave, having nowhere to go and being from another country with a child living here.
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Thanks i will check this out . And i‘m stilling waiting of the phone call from the lawyer.
And by the way my husband told on the weekend that i must to my job around the that i can stay her. Is this something. It hurts but i try to hanging in there.
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Thanks i will check this out . And i‘m stilling waiting of the phone call from the lawyer. And by the way my husband told on the weekend that i must to my job around the that i can stay her. Is this something. It hurts but i try to hanging in there. |
hmm, I‘m confused. What exactly did your husband say the weekend?
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Thanks i will check this out . And i‘m stilling waiting of the phone call from the lawyer.
And by the way my husband told on the weekend that i must to my job around the that i can stay her. Is this something. It hurts but i try to hanging in there. |
hmm, I‘m confused. What exactly did your husband say the weekend? |
Sorry my englisch. My husband says that i can be happy that he give me food and a place to stay. I must earn me that why i have no work that i must clean and do all my stuff around the house. Then he say for know on you must give me all the receipt what you buy, if not i will take the bankcard, the cellphone, the car from you. But he say i only can buy food or what his son need, but cremes or makeup or to go to the Hairstylist, he would not pay for that. Can he do that. I‘m so down again he is so meen to me. I told him first no but i gave up and say yes i will do that. What can i do i‘m so confused again.
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Karin if you‘re finding it easier to write in German go for it, I can understand it. Your English is fine though babe. I know sometimes it‘s very difficult to express our thoughts, especially if we‘re feeling nervous or sad.
Try to hang in there, he‘s beginning to get very controlling.
Have you spoken with an attorney yet?
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| Kahlan wrote: | Karin if you‘re finding it easier to write in German go for it, I can understand it. Your English is fine though babe. I know sometimes it‘s very difficult to express our thoughts, especially if we‘re feeling nervous or sad.
Try to hang in there, he‘s beginning to get very controlling.
Have you spoken with an attorney yet?
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No i did only talk with a legal advice and there told me there cant help me. I must be a american citizen.
I try to get money but since he told me that he want every Receipt. I cant get the money together
i dont understand why the legal advice dont help me there helping her a lot of mexican people.
I try to hang in there but is hurt. He make me that i say to everything yes only that he leave me alone .
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http://www.allexperts.com/ep/1364-48793/German-Law/Carolin-Schulz-Burgess.htm
Here is another website i found for you. The Lawyer is a German woman with permanent U.S. residency. She offers advice on a voluntary basis on this website, but she is on vacation for 4 more days. She offers advice on both US and German law and specializes in divorce, child custody, etc. Make sure you tell her his new demands. The "ask a question" link is on the bottom right side of the page, but until she is back from vacation, it wont let you post the question. Also try looking through her past questions. You might find something helpful there as well.
He is taking away your quality of life and making you into his slave using his own child as a tool to control you. Very sick.
He seems to be onto you. He is making sure you also have no money for legal help.
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Posted: 3/15/2010 5:52 AM |
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| moogleangelgirl wrote: | http://www.allexperts.com/ep/1364-48793/German-Law/Carolin-Schulz-Burgess.htm
Here is another website i found for you. The Lawyer is a German woman with permanent U.S. residency. She offers advice on a voluntary basis on this website, but she is on vacation for 4 more days. She offers advice on both US and German law and specializes in divorce, child custody, etc. Make sure you tell her his new demands. The "ask a question" link is on the bottom right side of the page, but until she is back from vacation, it wont let you post the question. Also try looking through her past questions. You might find something helpful there as well.
He is taking away your quality of life and making you into his slave using his own child as a tool to control you. Very sick.
He seems to be onto you. He is making sure you also have no money for legal help.
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Sorry i couldn‘t answer early my pc was not working. Thanks again for the website for the lawyer i will wright her and then let you know what she say. I hope she can help me.
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| malarkey marie |
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Posted: 3/15/2010 7:09 AM |
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| karin1957 wrote: |
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There are questions that you should be asking an attorney. Find a good divorce lawyer, and fire these questions there. I don‘t know how it works if you are not a US citizen. I would get legal advice before making any decisions.
In most states, yes, a husband can legally kick you out of the house. All it takes is an ex parte restraining order. It largely depends on which state you live in, what the laws are in that state, but again, how the law applies if you are not a US citizen. Whatever you do - do not let your husband know that you are worried about this. Keep your mouth shut and say nothing until you have all the facts.
Know all of your rights before you do anything.
I am sorry you are going through this. It sounds very disconcerting and scary. Please continue to post. And see a lawyer. |
"Note that in divorce settlements and custody battles, a judge may want to hear both sides of the dispute before an ex parte restraining order is issued." quote from the link below:
http://www.ehow.com/how_2140122_file-ex-parte-restraining-order.html
She still has rights, he has to have cause such as threat or harassment.
It‘s not as easy as it looks, I tried kicking my ex out before. Wasn‘t too easy with my word against his and this was before the abuse started. Then again that was many years ago, i havent heard of this kind or R-order. I hope for her sake the judge would decide to hear her side. I doubt he would make her leave, having nowhere to go and being from another country with a child living here.
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Thanks i will check this out . And i‘m stilling waiting of the phone call from the lawyer.
And by the way my husband told on the weekend that i must to my job around the that i can stay her. Is this something. It hurts but i try to hanging in there. |
the husband that suggests the wife earn income or more income is setting her up to look as tho she won‘t need his money in a divorce or that she will need less child support.
he could be planning to keep the boy and get money from you. allthewhile, taunting you and making you dance to his tune.
SEE A LAWYER.
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