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Posted: 2/28/2010 2:26 AM |
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I found out my boyfriend of almost three years was cheating on me a couple days ago. He is still denying it even though I had an eyewitness and chatted with the "cheatee", who had no idea he was in a relationship. I dont know what to do, I feel like if he would just admit it, that it would make some of the stress go away. I dont understand why this had to happen.. Im sure many people going through something like this feel that way too. I was loyal and cheating never crossed my mind. Does anyone have any suggestions or am i just going to have to live with his denials. I cant stop crying or thinking about it, but I cant think of anything that will help take my mind off it. college midterms are starting soon and i dont want it to effect my performance.
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Posted: 2/28/2010 9:07 AM |
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 Sorry this has happened to you. He‘s a liar, a cheat, and has no respect for you whatsoever. My best advice to you is for you to remain focused on your studies. Please, please, please don‘t let this guy ruin that for you. You‘ll only end up feeling worse if you let that happen. Lean on your friends. Lean on your family. Lean on us. We‘re here for you.
Most cheats NEVER come clean, no matter how much begging and pleading, no matter what the evidence against them is. Even if he did, there‘s a good chance he‘d blame his cheating actions on you.
ETA: It lasts as long as you let it last. Tell yourself nice things about yourself every single day. Sounds silly, but it works.
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Posted: 2/28/2010 11:04 AM |
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When you say "should I just live with his denials" do you mean that you are continuing this relationship even after all you know to be true?
This guy is a cheat and a liar, you are never going to get him to validate your hurt feelings.
If you stay with him you are basically telling him that its ok with you that he cheats, so, some where down the line he‘ll do it again...........is this really the kind of relationship you deserve.
Focus on you and your school work!!!!
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Posted: 2/28/2010 1:07 PM |
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| stuckinmyhead wrote: | | I found out my boyfriend of almost three years was cheating on me a couple days ago. He is still denying it even though I had an eyewitness and chatted with the "cheatee", who had no idea he was in a relationship. I dont know what to do, I feel like if he would just admit it, that it would make some of the stress go away. I dont understand why this had to happen.. Im sure many people going through something like this feel that way too. I was loyal and cheating never crossed my mind. Does anyone have any suggestions or am i just going to have to live with his denials. I cant stop crying or thinking about it, but I cant think of anything that will help take my mind off it. college midterms are starting soon and i dont want it to effect my performance. |
Honey try no contact with him. If he is still denying that he screwed arounfr then he probably is STILL screwing the other skank.
If you live with him I would find somewhere else to stay for a few days and give him time to decide who he really loves, you or his skank.
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Posted: 2/28/2010 3:34 PM |
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| lateeda wrote: | When you say "should I just live with his denials" do you mean that you are continuing this relationship even after all you know to be true?
This guy is a cheat and a liar, you are never going to get him to validate your hurt feelings.
If you stay with him you are basically telling him that its ok with you that he cheats, so, some where down the line he‘ll do it again...........is this really the kind of relationship you deserve.
Focus on you and your school work!!!! |
Whoa. Good point. I just assumed you dumped him right then and there. I sure hope you did.
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Posted: 2/28/2010 4:02 PM |
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No, definately not still with him. The trust is broken I dont think i could ever get over it.. I just ment that there will always be a little doubt in my mind (insignificant but still there) if he really did it. I always believed him not to be that kind of guy but i cant deny the large amount of evidence. I just feel like there will be this hump to get over if he doesnt admit to it.
Thanks for the support everyone cant tell you how much i appriciate it
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Posted: 3/1/2010 2:04 AM |
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My heart goes out to you and my hat goes off to you. He decided to be a sleaze and you decided to be an "uh-uh, you ain‘t screwing me over" kinda gal.
As for how long it will last... probably quite some time. But every day will be better than the day before, and worse than the day after. When the reality of all the evidence you‘ve found hits home, you‘ll be on your way to finding inner peace again. When you start getting angry as opposed to hurt, you know you‘re already a step ahead! And then once you realize that the fault lies not with you, but with his sorry cake-eating ass, you can put this mess behind you and look forward to all the new opportunities that have been opened up for you!
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