WomanSavers.com Forum / CATCH A CHEATER / Confused with my husband‘s act

I’ve been married for 7 years. A couple of months ago, my husband left home for work at 9 AM and returned home at 10 AM unexpectedly. He used the garage door and ran through the house and ended in our bedroom upstairs. He was acting so fast I had no idea what’s going on. Few minutes later, my husband resurfaced. He took his shaver and badge out of his pocket showing me and said he forgot them. Therefore he had to drive back home. I did not believe him. Why?  1. Every morning it is his routine to call me on his 45 minutes drive to work. He’d tell me the traffic situation. That morning he did not call. 2. Once in a while, he forgot his shaver or badge. He’d go a day without shaving or get a temporary badge. He did not drive back home in the past. 3. I used the bathroom few times after he was gone that morning, and I did not see the shaver on the counter as he claimed. 4. My husband has a habit of leaving his badge on the kitchen island. I could not understand how his badge was put upstairs the night before.

To me, my husband did forget something that morning, but not his shaver and badge. it is something he does not want me to know! In addition, I also noticed Matt put excessive mileages to our car around that period of time.

I was trying to figure out the whole thing; however he insists on his original story and became angry. Is my husband having an affair or am I being over sensitive (I hope it is me). I would love to hear your thoughts and advice.  - Confused

I know you want the truth like yesterday. Can‘t really give much advice except to look for patterns. If there are patterns of sneaky behaviors, start noticing them. Be more aware of him etc without nagging him, or tipping him off. Just in case he is wandering, you want as much info as possible first.

Until then, sit pretty. Continue posting. We‘ll be there for you.

My question is,  is this the only thing you have to go on?

If you are thinking cheating,  there must be more.

over the xmas holidays, i took photos of my christmas tree all decorated. i‘ve very proud of it and i do it just like my mom used to, when she was alive.

anyway, i took the photo with my cell phone and without putting on my glasses i texted it to most everyone in my "contacts" list.

i got a call 70 days later from a man i sometimes serve in the broken down diner dive i work in. he gave me his number because another customer is in poor health and we wanted to be able to reach each other should this aging widow take a turn for the worst.

seems his wife found a pix of my xmas tree in his cell phone. now she has him call me and demand to know wtf i‘m doing sending HER HUSBAND A PICTURE OF A XMAS TREE FOR GODS‘ SAKE.

i explain to him, "i‘m blind, miss-dial, wrong number, it‘s a tree ding dong, not my crotch‘‘.

he goes on to tell me, i‘ve "caused trouble" between him and his wife.

i apologize, remind him why i had his number in the first place, hang up and DELETE HIS ASS OFF MY CONTACTS.

his wife has called me again, twice.

That does sound suspitious, but ‘could‘ be innocent.  However, it is strange that he would get mad when you questioned him.  People with nothing to hide just answer the question.  My husband lied for 4 years about an affair he was having and he would get angry everytime i questioned him about something.  It is classic deflection.  In any case i‘d do some snooping around and then just be observant.