WomanSavers.com Forum / CATCH A CHEATER / Letter To Myself

Well Chach, this is a forum for women that are dealing withy the betrayal /abuse of their spouses or boyfriends or significant other. So this forum really is not where this should be posted.

With that being said, I do appauld you for following your gut instinct that something was wrong. Hopefully you did not have sex with this man. If you did you need to get to a doctor and have a complete STD panel ran.

While I do not usually reccommend that an OW cpntact the wife in your case I think you need to let her know what went on. You need to print out the email that states he is single. Tell her EVERYTHING, no matter how painful it is for you. She has a right to know.

You also owe the wife an apology.

Chacaroo:  I‘m sorry you were duped, and that you got hurt.

Good for you - following your instincts, checking him out, and finding out he was a liar early on.  It is good that you found out the truth before you invested too much.  It could have been so much worse.

Let‘s face it.  At our age, if a man is single, there is usually a reason for it.  And so many that are on dating websites, or even guys on the street, are married and just want a little action on the side  Not all - just some.  It does make you wary.

It is devastating to fall in love with someone, and then to discover that you‘ve been lied to and manipulated.  No one should be treated like that.  But if you look at it from another perspective, you dodged a bullet.  You have to feel sorry for his wife - settling for a dirtbag like this.  I know it hurts, but you are far better off without him.  You don‘t need anyone in your life who you cannot trust.  Better that you know the truth and know what you are really dealing with.

There are other cures for loneliness.  It will get better - I promise.

You were betrayed in more than one way. That POS stole money from you. You are way better off without him. I still think his wife needs to know what he did.

Affairs thrive in secret. If he did this to you then he is probably doing it to someone else. Out him to his wife. She has thye right to know what he is doing.

Dear Chach, I am really sorry what this person has done to you, I know it is very painful to get it over it.

Deceit is very damaging to good human soul and it takes lots of effort to heal and put all behind and move on. Time do heal..... trust me, i have been there once in my life and it was very depressing in so many ways.

I will give you HI-5 and you are a winner, you found out what he was all about and kicked him out, that is whole alot of power. YOU ARE STRONG.

give yourself sometime to heal, i am here to listen and i am sure there are lots of members here will come along and help you out. Stay strong and happiness will come through as long as you stand for your honestly and dignity.

lots of love and hugs

peace

summer

chacharoo wrote:

Thanks for all your support, it does help to vent! Ive been though all kinds of stuff at my age, gees, I just thought I was  older and wiser,, but I guess im just OLDER! lol I pasted a copy of the reverse look up on an email  that shows his home address and family names and phone number on it,,and also  added some paragraphs at the bottom of why mean cheat, then stated NEVER contact me again. So far, so good Im sure he was taken back , since he was here the last time and left his cold beer in my fridge as if to say he would be back soon. In the note I said  I did have a surprise for you but evidently I‘m the one that gets the surprise.,,,,PASTED AND SENT! NOT A PEEP outta him since!  My girlfriend said, that outta make him crap his pants for a while!

you are wise as well, you did figure him out rite? and kicked him off to his deceitful life back and let him deal with it and plz do not take him back for your own sake emotially and finacially.

you are the winner and enjoy it fully ...........

peace

summer