WomanSavers.com Forum / CATCH A CHEATER / men in womens cloths!

So I am new to this site and really need some help and advise as I am just so unsure about this whole thing.

He does not know I know all of what I do, but I will try to explain. I know for a fact that my commonlaw husband likes to dress up in womens cloths. This does not bother me as we all have fetishes in our lives. I also know he has some online adds looking for men as he enjoys being with men. Well again, I am a women so I can not really fit the bill for that fetish. I am not really ok with him seeing other men.

The part the really bother me is a add he placed looking for his dream mate etc and saying he is in a open relationship etc. Now I find out that he is in contact with one of old girlfriends.

I do not know if he has been seeing her for sure, nor do I know for sure if he has actually been with any guys. But the whole thing is starting to drive me nuts and it is now starting to effect my health as I have so much trouble sleeping.

I want to tell him I know about the dressing up etc as I have picture of him with his wig etc on and I have copies of all his adds that I have found. One even has a picture of his private parts on it, so I know it is him.

Should I talk to him? Just boot him out?

Please help me!

With all respect, i was shock to read your post, how do you deal with it for real?

First, I do believe he really need a help in great deal and it is far from you changing his sexual habit in this degree.

Question is that, do you really want to live your life with your partner under these ordeals? do you really want him in your life as he is?

if  I was in your shoes, i would leave the earth and move to other galaxy in a heart beat with no regret. I would told him what i know and pack and leave in speed of light.

To me it is always wrong and so disrespectful if man is seeking for other form relationship while they are with loved ones.

peace

summer

One of the problems is he lives in MY house, so if anyone leaves it will be him.

I do love him, and I know this sounds stupid but in most ways he loves me. I though we had a great relationship, we have tons in common, and we do lots of things together too.

But it still does not change the fact that I know what I know. I have been dropping sutal hints about things hopeing that maybe he will tell me what is going on, but that has not happened yet.

I am not a vengel person, nor do I get mad easy, but this whole thing is starting to piss me off.

Bunny

I‘d boot him.  If someone who is supposed to love me does things behind my back that they know full well could/would harm me, they‘d be out of my life quicker than they could blink.  The thought of contracting as STD alone would shut down any feelings I had for said person.  That‘s just me, though.  I‘m very cut and dry like that.