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| kreezthal |
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Posted: 2/4/2010 1:24 AM |
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Subject: once a lier always a lier... |
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New WomanSaver
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Age: 23
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Antipolo
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My ex boyfriend and I have been through a lot of problems before we got back together on his third try.It used to be fine for both of us until he told me that he‘s going to Australia to work.On the night of his flight he promised to come back for me then we‘ll get married.The first few days,I kept on crying because I miss him so much,so we just send text messages to each other and chat on the internet.Months have passed and everything is still going well.....Until one day,I found out that he lied to me.He said that he was sick and needed to rest so I said he can just sleep for a while but one day,I found out that he just went to the gym that day.I forgave him because I love him.I thought that everything is going to be alright but then again he started sending text messages for other people but unfortunately he sent it to my no. so again we fought and I cried over and over again.Days,weeks and months have passed and he started to change,less text messages and less time to chat with me,he said he was just busy with work and that‘s just it.I told him that Im breaking up with him but he said no and that I am everything to him and he can‘t lose me because i‘m only meant for him.I believed him once again because i love him but something happened afterwards....He sent another text message to me at 4:00 am saying that he‘s thankful for letting him sleep over there,it was for a "SWEETIE" and if I may just say so,he calls me HONEY not sweetie and he cant sleep here coz he‘s in australia and I‘m here in the Philippines...He kept on texting me the whole morning explaining things out and he calls me evry minute...That was the day that I started to feel so bad and almost killed myself.Time passed by and to my surprise I found some pictures at FACEBOOK wherein it was him and another girl so I confronted him,he said it was just a friend and he even accused me of a lot of things and verbally abused me.He said that I was loving him too much that he can‘t take it anymore.....
So I chose to be invisible and I never sent him any messages no matter how many messages he sents me,He even has the nerve to say i miss you and I love him until December of 2009.I saw another set of pictures with the same girl so it triggered me to sent a message to the girl.We ended up like that and never talked again until one day,I was able to hack his e-mail account and found all the evidence I need to prove that he‘s really a cheater and that the wrong sent message intended for "sweetie" was in fact for that same girl on the picture.I am right ONCE A LIER,ALWAYS A LIER and my world turned upside down.Every plan that we made together and every promises that he said are just LIES including the whole I WILL MARRY YOU thing...I am in deep pain right now but I can‘t do anything about it.
ONE LAST THING:because I loved him I went through hell because of his mom.I had to cry everyday because his mom made me feel worthless and that I‘m not good enough for her son.She says mean things to me and acts rude in front of me and she even said that she thinks that I‘m not capable of getting pregnant.
So that is my story,at 23,I went through hell just because I chose to love someone and actually believed in happily ever after.
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| Sunny fl |
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Posted: 2/5/2010 12:20 PM |
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sunshine and daisies
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Well the good thing is, you are 23 and know that this idiot is a looser, you haven‘t wasted your life on him.
It is time to move on, he is a liar and cheater!!
He will always be a liar and cheater, because he doesn‘t want to change. He wants to **** everything that walks and then come home to a faithful loyal woman.
Throw his ass to the curb!!
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| kreezthal |
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Posted: 2/8/2010 1:38 AM |
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Age: 23
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Your definitely right,..but imagine how miserable it is for me that until now he‘s still bothering me,his cousin and his bitch are ruining my life....They keep on sending me messages and saying that Im just jealous because that bitch is with him everyday and not me....
He even destroyed my reputation and told our common friend that I was the one responsible for the break up...and that I‘m lying to our friend to make him look bad...
Karma is a bitch and I won‘t let him ruin my life because he can never find someone like me ever again..It‘s his lost anyway.....
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| Rhiannon |
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Posted: 2/8/2010 4:52 AM |
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Lacey
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Kreez: At 23, you have your whole life ahead of you, and you are going to meet lots and lots of men.
Sunny made an excellent point. At least you haven‘t wasted a lifetime on this loser. You have every opportunity to move on, to learn whatever lessons that needed to be learned, and to start over. Chalk it up to experience, and apply the lessons learned to your next relationship.
Better yet - enjoy your youth, your independence and your freedom. Take this time to find out who you are, what makes you tick, and follow your dreams. It may feel lonely at first, but change can also be invigorating.
I would start by changing your cell phone number and/or blocking any and all texts from the ex, his friends, or his family. Avoid him - avoid the places he goes - and make it less convenient for gossip to make its way to you.
Most exes lie about break-ups. You will usually be made out to be the "psycho, crazy bitch" while he will portray himself as the broken hearted saint. Whatever. He also knows it hurts you and makes you angry, and he gets a certain amount of spiteful satisfaction by knowing he has gotten to you.
Your real friends will know the truth. Anyone who is listening to - or siding with - him - is not a true friend to begin with. In that case, you don‘t need those people in your life. You can always start over where friends are concerned. There are always new people to meet.
The best revenge is a good life. You have dodged a bullet. Consider yourself blessed that you figured it out early. Better things are in store for you!
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| kreezthal |
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Posted: 2/8/2010 6:25 PM |
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Thanks a lot Rhiannon
Now that things are finally clear and that I proved that he lied and cheated on me I can now move on. It‘s his lost anyway because everybody said that I‘m prettier than his bitch.
Besides,he can never have someone better than me. I‘m not saying that I‘m perfect but I am good looking,intelligent and very talented. I have everything that a girl could wish for to be able to succeed in life.Right now I‘m just taking things slow and doing my best to start my own business.
They can enjoy their lives for now,but I‘m sure that one day,they will suffer for the consequences of their actions.
I have plenty of guys who admires me a lot and that is something that I can be proud of bcoz it means that they notice something in me. I don‘t have to feel ugly anymore or feel bad about myself because of what he did...maybe it was God‘s will for me to find out the truth in a hard way so that I can open up my eyes and see that I am destined to be with someone else and not with my ex.
I‘m not dating anyone for now but there‘s this guy who happens to make me feel special right now,sad to say he‘s 30 already but he doesn‘t look his age. He‘s a sailor and he is the complete opposite of my ex,he;s sweet,he appreciates even the smallest details like the color of my eyes or my favorite color....We only met through a good friend and he instantly likes me.Though we haven‘s even seen each other personally bcoz their ship is sailing,he never forgets me and even if he can just call me for 2 mins through satellite phone,he takes that chance just to let me now that he misses me and that He never forgets me.
It‘s been 6 months since my ex and I broke up (bcoz I always caught him lying to me) but it has only been a month since I found out the truth about his affair (wherein he‘s still saying that he loves me not until December 2009) about his affair and it‘s only been 4 days since they last bothered me and destroyed my reputation.
So I think that it‘s not bad if I ever give someone a chance to love me.Am i right?
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Posted: 2/8/2010 7:01 PM |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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When you feel the time is right for you, you should absolutely give someone the chance to love you. No use holding up your life.
You‘re a smart cookie!
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Posted: 2/9/2010 12:07 AM |
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My life never ended just because he cheated on me. So your right,I should give someone a chance. I may have made a stupid mistake before but I‘ll never let that stop me from doing what I do best,which is to succeed in life and accomplish every goal that I have...
I‘m smart and I‘m a faithful loving person so it‘s my turn now to prove what I‘m worth and show everyone that I have what it takes to succeed even after a storm....
Thanks learning....
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Posted: 2/9/2010 2:19 PM |
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My pleasure! 
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Posted: 2/12/2010 12:23 AM |
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My husband cheated on me after 6 mos of marriage. We have been married 4 years this July. I would find things in his work truck and he would tell me they belonged to my daughter. I saw him in our car with a blonde wearing a light blue shirt, I called him and he told me it was Robby, who is Hawaiian. He makes up so many lies. I live in this world everyday where I feel like I am losing myself, I am depressed, I want to do things but I just dont have the energy. He smokes a lot of pot, and when he is not stoned he is a jerk to me. I hate the woman he was with because she knew he was married. He would come home get in a fight with me so he could leave and be with her. One night I was on the porch and I pointed my finger at him and said if you hadnt done what you did we wouldnt be fighting, he pushed me and I went through the railing, he was arrested. I did not speak with him for two months, changed my number etc... when I began to feel strong again, I contacted him and he told me how much he loved me and how sorry he was. It‘s been a year and a half since we have been back together and he does seem to have changed, but I think he has just gotten better at his games.
How can I get out of this mess. I cant live on my salary alone. I hate feeling this way.
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Posted: 2/12/2010 5:32 AM |
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Justonce: Welcome to Womanavers!
I‘m sorry you have gone through all this after only 4 years of marriage.
Since it‘s only been 4 years, I guess I would have to ask how you supported yourself before you married him? It you did it before, I am confident that you could do it again.
Granted, the economy is crappy, and it‘s a horrible time to be looking for a job. It sounds to me like your confidence has been destroyed. Amazing how a bad relationship can do that to a person.
I hope you‘ll continue to post!
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