WomanSavers.com Forum / CATCH A CHEATER / cheating - objective point of view

I know what you are going through and feel your pain. My husband cheated on me a lot during our relationship of 8 years and it was always through on-line dating sites. It would usually be when we were going through a difficult time and instead of trying to work it out with me, he would find woman on line. I know that he was unfaithful to me both physically and emotionally. It never got better and when confronted with the infidelity, he would twist the subject around to blame me or my family for something that happened in the past, just to deflect his guilt. I finally left him and I‘m so glad that I did!

You should take a good look at what your boyfriend is doing behind your back and decide whether you are willing to put up with his lies, infidelity and disrespect for you and your feelings. You certainly don‘t have to put up with it and can choose to leave before you waste too much of your time with someone that you can not trust.

Lots of luck!

Welcome Karmenn.  Your English is fine.

I think your boyfriend is lying.  He got caught and now is doing the denial and the undying love towards you.  Unfortunately, most cheaters do that when caught.  If he has deleted this account, why not show you his e-mail account?  That would prove it.  Two years is a long time to not know why he did it and be mad at himself.

Just keep checking and trust your gut.

Do you and your boyfriend live together?

, Karmenn!  Your English is just fine.  No worries.

For what my 2 cents are worth, I say he‘s straight-faced lying to you.  Like CaliGirl said, it‘s what cheaters do when caught; they‘re oh so sorry, they have no idea why it happend, how it happened, they love you so much, blah blah blah blah.  All lies.  The reason he won‘t say more than he‘s sorry, etc., is because there is more to his story than has met your eye so far.   The less that‘s said, the less the chances are of slipping up and giving too much info.  That‘s why they never ever want to talk about it.

My ex cheated on me plenty!  He did the same dance as yours is now doing.  He didn‘t want to talk about it either.  Just wanted to say how sorry he was, how much he loved me, and just wanted us to move on from there.  It NEVER got better, ergo he is now my ex. 

In my opinion, I think he‘s pulling the wool over your eyes....or at least he‘s trying to.  Good for you for telling him to move out. 

karmenn wrote:

yes, i know... you know what he explained? he just wanted to see if he can make those girls meet him, and when they gave a possitive answer he drop out and didn‘t contact them anymore.... how possible is that? or he contacted girls from our city just to see if he knew any of one of them when they send him photos... but that‘s all 5 years ago i kissed a boy, just kissed and he find out and now he said that it‘s also one of the reasons... i mean, he even gave me a ring, plannin future, but continue to "write" with them.... "he had a crise"... ***** now i got angry thinking about all this......

So sorry I angered you.  I didn‘t mean to do that at all.       

I would say, Hey, don‘t waste another second thinking about this guy, just dry your eyes and move on.  But that is impossible and I‘d be a hypocrite because I didn‘t do that.  I was mad and crying for a good while.  However, I wish I would have done just that, forgot him right away.  Now I think I‘m a huge smacked a$$ for giving such a "person" so much of my time.  He didn‘t deserve it, the lying, cheating sack of ****.   So my best advice is to allow yourself to feel what you feel; be angry, be sad, etc.  Just don‘t let the feelings consume you.

Just so you know, I caught my ex cheating online, too.  I relate to your story.   It sucks now, but it does get a WHOLE lot better.