WomanSavers.com Forum / CATCH A CHEATER / hi new have some questions on online dating and this guy

he is full of it, if he wanted to take off all his profiles from any dating site that he posted himself........ no dating web site will keep him on their site against his will. one click he would deleted it all.

i believe that is a red flag that he is not ready for a one to one relationship and he is making up stories top of it.

If i were you, i would just say good bye and not waste time on him period

peace

summer

OH MY God!  That was the SAME EXACT excuse my husband used!  He then went on to say that the sites needed content so could just keep profiles on there no matter how long ago you last used it.

I have been separated for 11 months now.  I have tried 3 different dating sites.  You can easily take your profile down off of all of them.  Just delete the pic.  Take profile down.  I know this cause I discovered in a short time that there was nothing but married or just weird men on there.  It was no problem to take my profile down.

Well let me tell you this.  You husband is a lying sack of ****.  And so was mine.

It even got so bad that I found his picture taken in our bedroom.  His tag line was "One of the few nice guys left".  I copied the picture, threw it in with the rest of our photos and me and the kids sat down and went through pics on the PC.  He happened to come into the room as our 3 and 4 year old were yelling "Daddy"  when they saw his pic.  I could just see the wheels turning in his head trying to figure out HOW he screwed up and that picture got in with the family photos.  I asked him. "Is that you?"...TWICE.  "I said you look kind of funny, That‘s not your brother is it?"  He said it was him.

Later.....when I confronted him on where I got the pic...yup you guessed it.  He said "It wasn‘t me".

Since I have been there and done that I have the very best advice for you.  Do NOT let on that you know about him being on the sites. 

Start by making a bunch of profiles using around 3 different email addresses.  Copy some normal pics of chicks on the internet.  Then start sending him sexy messages.  Ask to meet and then set him up with all his family and friends showing up...complete with a slide show of his texts to the anonymous girlfriend.  A projector in a bar pre set up will work wonderfully.  I can‘t tell you how much satisfaction this has, but it does.  Enlist some girlfriends and brothers are always helpful to get your plans unleashed on this asshole.

  I know it is harsh, hon.  I wanted to believe the lies too.

He sounds like a serial cheat.  Just like my no good husband.

H‘m, I used to be a member on a couple of fair-to-middling respectable dating sites. I wasn‘t married, and if i‘m weird it was a nice kind of weird. What a lot of them do is to offer "free" standard membership, which means you can‘t actually contact anybody. To do that you have to pay for premium membership. Some use automatic renewal unless you check the option f not permitting that, and I parted company from one site when after more than once thinking I had made a mistake, I was at last convinced that they had cheated on that, and autorenewed when I had specified otherwise. They would probably call it accidentally setting my profile back to default.

So it may be that he meant to let his premium membership lapse, and it either did or didn‘t (his profile should tell you). He could, as people say, have cancelled his standard membership too. Maybe he was too lazy, or didn‘t think. Maybe he just enjoyed getting the occasional message from interested females, to whom he would never reply. Or maybe he wanted to keep a second-string option for when his relationship with you would come to an end.  Or maybe he wanted to flit from flower to flower. It could be anything from a little bit bad, to very bad, and needs to be taken in conjunction with other signs.