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| kortland |
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Posted: 11/20/2009 11:09 PM |
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Subject: What was it like- the moments after? |
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New WomanSaver
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Age: 42
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Hey ladies. I am writing a book on a women who found her husband cheating on her. She walks into the room and actually sees it in progress. I am hoping that you can help me.
If it is not too painful, I would like you to describe the moments after you found out (no matter if you caught him in the act or not) What did you feel like and do immediately after. An hour after, a day, a month.
Sharing your personal experience while painful, can help other women. I want to write this as true as possible so that when other women, who went through this experience read this, they don‘t feel alone. They feel there are other women who have gone through the torment that affairs cause. You can help this be more true to life by rounding out the experience you have had.
As much description and detail as you are comfortable would be very helpful.
Thank you very much,
Kendel
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Posted: 11/25/2009 3:45 AM |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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First Phase: Total Shock and Denial. This can‘t be happening. Wanting to make excuses. Wanting to deny it. Feeling guilty about asking the doctor to run an STD screen.
Second Phase: Waking up in the middle of the night, "OMG he‘s cheating on me!" Tearing apart the house going through phone bills and credit card bills and "evidence." Realizing he‘s been lying to me for a really long time. Conclusion: The beginning of the end of denial.
Third Phase: Hurt. Devastation. What the hell do I do now? Questioning everything I thought I knew about this man. I gave him the best years of my life. Always said I would never put up with a cheating man. It was easier when I was just saying it - I never thought for a minute I‘d be living it.
Fourth Phase: RAGE. How could he do this to me? How could he do this to his family? How dare he stick his dick into a two dollar whore and put me, and his family, at risk? I wanted to kill him.
Fifth Phase: Obsession. Thinking back on all the crap I put up with. The excuses I made for him. The many ways I helped him with his career. Functioning like a single parent so he could "make it" in his profession without any "distractions." The obvious lies he told that I overlooked. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.
Sixth Phase: Revenge. I‘m going to make him pay. He is so going to regret his actions. No, I won‘t do an affair myself. Why lower myself to his level? Why be a sleaze? No, I‘ll treat him like the ****heel he is. He doesn‘t come first anymore. Let him sweat it. Let him worry about losing his wife and family, and see what that feels like.
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Posted: 11/26/2009 9:55 AM |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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Wow Rhiannon,
That‘s exactly what happened to me. Word for word.
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Posted: 11/28/2009 9:54 AM |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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I found out through an email he left up. I felt as if I was having a heart attack, my chest was pounding so fast. It was like an adrenaline rush with nausia. I was blown away. I felt like I was taken for a fool and pissed as hell.
I went straight down and cleaned out the bank account. He knew something was up because he met me outside. I gave him less than 24 hrs to get out.
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