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| Helena4 |
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Posted: 11/9/2009 7:59 PM |
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Subject: Would a serial cheater change after marriage? 20 year history of cheating |
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astoria
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Will he change his cheating ways if we get married?
Hi, I am 32 and with a man who is turning 40 soon. We have been together for a year and a couple of months. On average we hang out once a week but lately we have been spending more time together (the past couple of months), so for a year it was only once a week.
Now, I know this sounds naive of me, but I recently found out that he had3 more "exclusive relationships" of the same intensity during the time I was with him. Some were about 7 months and two were 2 years long. The women dumped him because of the cheating from what I heard. He also had a profile on a dating site but stopped using it when I found out.
I spoke to his uncle and he told me he has always been this way (for the 20 years he has been dating), that he always had many women and does not settle down, and has had a cheating problem. He had told me he only has had 4 relatoinships but his uncle said there have been about 200 women in his life, and that at one point when he was with me that he would see 5 different women during the week, many of them great girls for marriage.
THe thing is I kind of push for the idea of marriage because I like him a lot, he is successful, professional, and knows how to take a woman out for a good time.
Point is, he is now only with me and we took two vacations together. I did find out that he had invited the other women on vacations as well and in fact took one of them to the same hotel last year when we went to the Bahamas.
I went over his place one day unnnanouced because his folks were there and I had never met them. He introduced me as "a friend/acquaintance" but sometimes tells me he thinks about the future. I JUST DON"T KNOW IF HE STOPPED SO HE WON"T LOSE ME LIKE HE LOST THE OTHERS, OR BECAUSE HE CARES ABOUT ME. He stopped going on the dating site the day I confronted him.
At his age, isn‘t it possible he will settle down with me-now that all the others are gone?
OR, why is it that he never did settle down so far if he has met so many women?
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| summer62 |
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Posted: 11/10/2009 1:40 PM |
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Subject: Would a serial cheater change after marriage? 20 year history of cheating |
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MANHATTAN
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 if you didnt have question mark in your inner self you would not come up and posted here about him.
it is only my personal exprience that cheaters will always be cheaters and i would not deal with a man who has so many dates and so many women in his life for a long time.
being with someone as a married couple has more then just good times, it is a life promise be there in either way good and bad. so you give yourself more time before getting married . i would be very careful if i were you and pay attenition to his past , people dont change so quick . what you see it what you get......... is the case usually.
peace
summer
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