WomanSavers.com Forum / CATCH A CHEATER / how can i read his texts?

First of all with his track record it should not piss him off when you ask questions...he is the reason you are suspicious...as you should and are entiltled to be...

I would not suggest any financial merging until you are 100% comfortable and happy in your relationship...If you feel the need to read his texts...then you are not ready for that...

As far as getting the texts you‘re looking for I have no clue...But what I will say is keep your financials separate for now...

I just read your other posts about his recent infedelities...and how disrespectful he‘s being to you...

Merge financially?

What?

First and foremost,if the contract is not in your name you are not entitled to any info from AT&T. You may pay the bill but if your name is not on the contract then I would quickly back away from this venture.

Next,let me address the financial portion of your post. Read this slowly: DO NOT TAKE OUT A LOAN , SECOND MORTAGE OR GIVE HIM ANY MONIES!!!!!!!!!! It is never a good idea to co-mingle funds at any time!

Now back to your question about the texts. AT&T will only show you the numbers that he is texting. However, I have discovered that certain AT&T phones  will allow you to save a text onto the SIM card.  I do not think this will help you as you stated that his phone is always at his side.

He has cheated on you in the past.  He has given you reason to mistrust him....yet HE gets angry with YOU for wanting to know who he texting.

This sounds like my STBX.  The reason he is getting angry with you is because he is guilty.  Mine was ornery as hell toward the last.

See, they have all this guilt built up inside and no one can handle that much guilt.  So  they have to make you into the bad guy.  That is why he gets angry with you.

The cheater will eventually really believe that everything was your fault.  Yup, weird, but that is the way it works.

won‘t work if the phones not in your name, but if you can get your name on it and the phone  has a sim card you might be able to take it to a detective (let him think he lost it) and see the text.

Most men are smart enough to delete text and the women are stupid enough to believe the texting is innocent.  I had this happen to me where he was texting someone who was basically a friend with benefits.  She was actually the one who did not want to be with him full time.  Since he was a business man he was able to get away for a few hours here and there and also later on it came out she would fly to see him on business trips.  He denied it when I first found one he forgot to delete claiming they were business associates. He then claimed he would no longer associate with this person unless it was mandatory business.  He did stop texting her on his phone, but so what he did was get a prepaid phone to keep in contact with her on. (I hired a detective, since we had a big lifestyle and I had alot to lose if I was mistaken.) Don‘t be afraid to realize the truth and get out, a year later I met the man of my dreams and never realized how happy I could be.  Mine being a professional man kept his cool at my first inquiry about the text.  He remained totally calm, never raised his voice or truly acted defensive.  He acted like he understood why I would question him and assured me everything was OK... reverse physc!  Once a cheater always a cheater no need to save my marriage, I KNEW I DESERVED BETTER!

Also, someone else I know had another sexting thing going on.  THe hubby claimed he was working late at the office busting his butt working and when he came home the wife found the text where he had texted someone how great the party was.  The text receiver was the sexy secretary who is 23.  Turned out he was out with a few young girls at a bar.