WomanSavers.com Forum / CATCH A CHEATER / I Need Some Advice Ladies

I have been married for 16yrs and I think my husband is cheating.  He is very distant, no sex life and does not want to go out anywhere with me.  He is always receiving textes and texting and I know men do not text unless its a female involved.  Sometime I catch the end of some of his conversations and his whole voice and demeanor changes.  I want to get cell phone records, but Metro PCS does not mail out cell phone records.  How can I investigate his records.  I have not seen him in 24hrs.  We have two teenage boys and I don‘t drive and we both have been laid off and I am in the process of losing my home.  I could really use some advice right about now.  I am at my wits end!!!!

The Loving Wife!!!

It‘s kinda of 007 but I‘d install a voice activated recorder in his car to see what goes on...Have you looked at his text history while he‘s in the shower or out?

Does he know your suspicious of his behaviour?

Talk to a lawyer.

Call your mortgage company asap and ask if they will accept a short sale on the home.  If they will, get that house on the market ASAP.

Start thinking about where you are going to live.

Beat the streets to find a job.

I don‘t think you need anymore evidence something is definately up.  Now pull up your boots and take control of your future.  I know you must feel like the rug is being pulled out from under you.  This economy sucks and to have a partner who is not emotional there is a cruel bit to chew. 

Make your kids your main concern clearly he doesnt care anymore ,pray about it as my mother always says a woman knows when something is not right .just do what the other advised you to and again pray about it there is no higher power than God..

I agree that you should trust your instincts,  but have you though maybe he is depressed because of everything else that is going on in your life.

I would find a way to follow him,  call a friend with a car.  the recorder was also a good idea,

Busty is right,  do a short sale,  its better then just losing your house.

You need to prepare yourself for what may come.  Get all your important paper and anything that is important to you out of the house.  Divorce can get ugly. 

my heart goes out to you mshoney!  i realize you posted over amonth ago, so hopefully you‘ve made some progress, and your over that feeling where your heart is stuck in your throat!  are you driving yet?

now, about cell phone records....  I‘ve done this more than twice, i‘m ashamed to say) 

all you need is the internet.  go to the carriers website, try logging on using his cell #, email, or the account # as it appears on the bill.  try his usual passwords, if you can‘t figure it out, then call the carrier tell them the email that you and your husband use for bills has been hacked and you would like to register a new email, they will ask you some basic security questions, (inc  the last 4 of his SS, or all 9 digits).  It‘s important that you sound authoritative.  provide them with an email you can access and once they send it you can then reset the password on the account.  NOTE: once you are in the account MAKE SURE YOU PRINT EVERY BILL and HIDE THEM!

hope this helps