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| queen_hearts |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 8:41 AM |
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Subject: how am i supposed to survive this |
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New WomanSaver
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Age: 40
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houston
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after 12 years of marriage and 3 kids and a big loan i found out that he is having an afffair with the same woman he knew years before me...(diana - camilla case)..i feel sick and tired financially i canot be independent...when i confronted him he swears i am imagining ( he is a leo "bill clinton sign" )and the lies go on....its just that deep heart burn inside me i canot stand...i feel so frustrated and tired
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| b4angels |
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Posted: 11/1/2009 10:33 AM |
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Subject: how am i supposed to survive this |
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Age: 45
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magnolia
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Queen_heart, My heart goes out to you and everyone on this site. One thing I would do if you can at all is every chance you get tuck some money back for if the time comes you will have something to fall back on. I have a son who has got in some trouble as a teen and often I have had people say well if that was my son I would do this or that and they don‘t have a clue or sometimes what works for one might not work for another. The same with marriages for me I found my H was calling another women for the last eight years and I didn‘t have a clue. I didn‘t have the "smoking gun" so to speak, but enough e-mails, text messages and calls to this womens home and work. They both say their just friends but if true why would you have to lie after I found out. Anyways I like many others feel stuck at least for now. It is very easy to say well leave, but it is not always so easy where are you going to go and how will you live. I was even told by a lawyer if my H kicked me out it could take up to six months to get it worked out but because I still have a child I would get the house at least till he is 18. Once again with no family no skills and now at a age with health problems for me we live on my H disability so not much money to put away it would take years, no where to go to and I checked into things I never worked much while my children were younger so I never made enough money to draw disability I could draw the SSI but all this takes time sometimes a year or longer also I would have to be divorced to even go for this. Everybody is different. So it is not always just leave. Again if there is anyway for you to start putting money away do so for you and your children. This site is very good to talk to others and know your not alone, and I have seen alot of us on here often feel like am I makeing a big deal out of nothing don‘t second guess yourself. I myself have to remind myself I am a good person and didn;t do anything to be treated like this so hold your head up. I wish you the best.
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