WomanSavers.com Forum / CATCH A CHEATER / Just Suspicious?

My s.o. unfortunately has tons of other girls business cards around in the car...he does work in sales with some women, but is it normal for him to carry them around with him personally out of the office - I don‘t think these girls intended that, but who knows.  He does not have a perfect track record.  He is not who he makes himself out to be to these gals anyhow...he actually works at the mall and plays WOW.

Also, when we are out he gets tons of phone call voice mails but doesn‘t pick any of them up around me...ever.

I agree...For me the business cards are less of a red flag then being weird about the phone...If he can‘t pick it up in front of you...there might be a reason.

My husband is a car sales man so I understand your situation, And I have found odd things in the past as well, and even took a frying pan upside his knocker. But that was two years ago, now when I see something funny or odd, I become thankful, Thankful that this woman would get his attention away from me and he wouldn;t try to touch me, and I thank what ever diety out there for having another woman pick him up " you want him? He‘s yours" for what ever reason she finds interest with him is beyond me.I just don;t see it. And when and if that happens I‘ll be sure to give this woman roses and a thank you card...

 Why go out of your way for someone who dosen‘t appreciate you? Why give them all those tears and pain?

Move on and be thankful in ten years that you didn;t marry this guy and have kids,

Hey alpha,

Have you confronted him yet?

Any update since your original post?

Kitty

I did ask him about the cards, they were in there and there is a lot not a few so they are falling out of the middle part of the car when we drive around.  Then he said I was spying cause they fell out on me when we went to get fast food and tried to put my sunglasses in the glovebox.

I do probably believe him nothing is going on with them.  I do believe that this guy is kind of an woman abuser and very metro.  I didn‘t think a lot of it, but last night he was in some deep convo with a guy friend from college he typically talks to on Friday nights Yup talks to guys on Fri nights.. He seems to talk to the guy for an hour plus.  The other guy I believe to be straight.  He talks to me for about 10 min. tops.  He does have a fashion job.  Does this seem weird?

We had spent time together the night before, today he was on the phone with his guy friend from out of state all night and he was late home, and wouldn‘t get off the phone with him to make plans with me, or even say hi.  He talks to the guy from the car.  I tried to wave at him a  few times, nothing, so I went out and did something else.  This happens each time this other guy calls.  It is a little odd.  They lived together after college for 5 yrs presumably to save on rent. 

Hm.

Are there any other red flags besides the phone calls?

What do they talk about?