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| gina** |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 3:44 PM |
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Subject: Oh. My. God. |
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So. My mom told me today, that right before we left for vacation, my husband called her. He was basically complaining about how upset I was about that so called "best friend" he had 5 years ago. He was even saying that he was sure I had an affair with someone (not true).
So my mom drilled him, did you have an affair, are you having an affair etc etc. Of course she wasnt expecting to get honesty out of him, but he was the one who called her and was basically complaining about me. He kept saying no, but then apparently he slipped and said "I haven‘t stuck it in anyone else in 5 years".
Holy ______.
She said she didn‘t tell me 2 weeks ago because when he said it she was shocked. She wasn‘t really sure she heard him right. But she says she sure. Then she thougth she wanted me to get away peacefully and have a peaceful vacation, so she told me now after we got back. She said he immediately changed the subject after he said it. Like he knew he‘d slipped or something. She said she knew if she pegged him on it, even right after he said it, he‘d say "I didnt‘ say that". But he did.
She urged me to stay calm. I have a ferocious temper. I am calm. I said okay let‘s see if we can get anything else. She said she‘d do whatever. We both agree that it‘s a long shot, but she‘s going to call him about it, and tell him he should trust her because she hasn‘t told me (so he thinks), we have a whole plan conversation.
He must have slipped big time. Because that is not even the way he talks. But then, as I‘ve said, he seems to have different personalities and demeanors, he acts very serious and upstanding in front of me and our families, but like a horn dog around his friends totally out of the character I know. I guess he crossed personalities for a minute.
The first thing I did was thank God. This is what I‘ve been praying for. I need this. I really need the truth. I am pissed, but trying to be grateful. I prayed hard for this, and believe me I‘m not a religious woman. Now I‘m praying god will allow her to get more of the truth out of him. What a blessing that would be. If I could leave with no doubt or confusion.
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| oldwiz |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 4:44 PM |
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Subject: Oh. My. God. |
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I‘m sorry, Gina. It‘s not easy. I know!
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Posted: 7/13/2008 5:04 PM |
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thanks oldwiz
You know, I‘m really not as mad as I should be. I‘m disgusted. I‘m not surprised. I think I‘ve already felt so much rage about this even before this latest slip of the tongue, I‘m all used up of emotion. Maybe I‘m numb. And maybe that‘s a good thing.
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| Momof4Crabs |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 5:41 PM |
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Knowing is always better then not knowing. Now you can start living your life, breathing easier. Next you need to figure out what to do, and obtain closure. That is the most important thing I think.
Good thing your mom can help you with all the stuff.
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Posted: 7/13/2008 9:12 PM |
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Sorry you are hurting. Strikes me funny, why is your ex phoning your Mom? Seems to me that would be the 2nd from last persons I would want involved in my marital affairs next to my children. He is obviously desparate, and I would ask Mom to stay out of it and simply hang up on him.
More rough sledding ahead. So sorry for you.
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| gina** |
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Posted: 7/14/2008 9:44 AM |
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Sorry you are hurting. Strikes me funny, why is your ex phoning your Mom? Seems to me that would be the 2nd from last persons I would want involved in my marital affairs next to my children. He is obviously desparate, and I would ask Mom to stay out of it and simply hang up on him. More rough sledding ahead. So sorry for you.
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Thanks everyone.
nazdave it‘s not that out of the ordinary for him to call my mom, we‘ve been married 19 yrs, we are all close, she lives close by, he calls my parents often just on his own, and I call his family often on my own too. But he slipped.
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Posted: 7/23/2008 6:11 AM |
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Gina-I just got back from vacation and was mortified to read about your husband‘s conversation with your mother. You must be in shock and I wanted to see how you are holding up. Did you decide what you are going to do about his admission in the past of a physical affair? If you would ever want to e-mail anytime-let me know. Good luck and hang in there:)
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Posted: 7/23/2008 1:07 PM |
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| lottalinda wrote: | | Gina-I just got back from vacation and was mortified to read about your husband‘s conversation with your mother. You must be in shock and I wanted to see how you are holding up. Did you decide what you are going to do about his admission in the past of a physical affair? If you would ever want to e-mail anytime-let me know. Good luck and hang in there:) |
Hi, Lottalinda. Gina hasn‘t been here for several days. I hope she‘s okay.
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Posted: 7/23/2008 2:10 PM |
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I‘m concerned...sometimes the enormonity of the situation doesn‘t sink in for a few days and then you feel like you are falling into a hole if you have no support. Maybe she‘ll check back in soon. Thanks for letting me know:)
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