WomanSavers.com Forum / CATCH A CHEATER / Needing help please

Ok so i have been married for four years now and been with my husband for 5. we have three wonderful kids together from ages 3-3 months... I think that my husband is cheating on me and i want to know how i can catch him.... This is why i believe this to be ture....

He works at wal mart till late at night. I have had people come to me (older ladies) that have told me he is asking this girl to try on thongs for him and swim wear. Also i found a picture of his thingy on his phone... had a girl ask him how big it is and i know this because he was bragging about it an my sister in law over heard it when he was talking to one of his friends.  Sex has never been a problem with us because he is like a sex feen but i dont give it enough so i feel he is going else where. This is not the first time... he slept with this girl when we first got together an they he slept with my best friend while i was pregnant with our first baby (mind you in my own home while i was asleep). I cant continue to do this if he is cheating im hurting to much an so are our children. Everytime we fight he wants to leave me an sometimes packs his things....  he is sooo cold an mean to me now also.... what do i do how can i catch him doing something???? please help me

not to mention i caught him with two diffrent girls at an old job... one he was trying to sleep with an the other he was feeling on her butt and got head from i found out from a girl that worked there... ( not sure if it is true but im pretty sure it sounds like my husband)

Oh hun, why are you still with him?

I‘m sorry that you have to go through this. I know it‘s not easy having the one you love cheat on you. Do you know for sure he‘s cheating? Do you suspect? Or do you want to find out? From the way I see things, he is a cheater thru and thru. And maybe you stuck with him hoping he can change. I‘m sorry, dearie, but this bugger isn‘t gonna change. You gave enough chances, and he only proved to waste them.

I know it‘s not as easy as it sounds to leave him. Considering you have 3 babies and they need a father. Is he the only one who is bringing money home? I‘m sure there are financial reasons why it‘d only make things more difficult.

I‘m not one who can give you advice on anything to do with marriage because I‘m not experienced in this area. But i just want you to know that people are reading your post and we sympathise with you very much.

How can you catch him?

 I think you already have. You love him and probably cant believe he is doing this. Its got nothing to do with you. It is all about him. He has a serious problem from what you are saying. Your babies are probably your world. He decided to have a family with you. What is he thinking?? He should have put his selfishness aside when he became committed to you. I hope you think about what is next.  But right now you are hurting. The more he does it- I hope the less you care. You are worried about your family and he is worried about him. What a jerk.

I didn‘t have time this am to respond.  But now I do.  SOOOO.....why do you want more evidence to prove what you already know deep down?  If I were you I would be making an escape plan and socking away money.  Why on earth would you put up this man‘s cheating and lying?  Don‘t you know you deserve better??  Well you do!! And so do your children!

Cindy

He is an ass,  somemen  screw up and learn,  your doesnt.  He is going to catch something  and give it to you.

How happy do you think your kids will be, when you are so unhappy that you have trouble getting out of bed.

CAll your family,  I flew thousands of miles  to drive my sister home after she caught her asshole  cheating,  It will be tuff  but you will and can make it!!

He isnt worth losing yourself for!!