WomanSavers.com Forum / CATCH A CHEATER / Honestly, is this my fault????

OMG, what an asshole he is! He is trying to deflect the blame on YOU - that‘s BULLSHIT!

"Oh, poor me, YOU make me go put my dick in another woman‘s *****. It‘s all your fault cuz you did X, Y & Z...wah wah wah."

FUCK THAT! Why are you putting up with this sh!t? Why don‘t you kick his ass out? If he wants to be with her, and flaunts it in front of you face, then tell him to leave & file for divorce.

If he was remorseful & trying to make things work between you two, it would be somewhat different.

He has no respect for you. He‘s having his cake & eating it too, right in front of you. You are letting him.

You didn‘t cause his affair. However, you tolerating it is eroding any respect he had for you into nothing. He doesn‘t care about yor feelings. You don‘t deserve this.

Why would you tolerate this? Put your foot down & tell him to getthefvckoutta Dodge!

Grrrrr!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (to him, not you)

UB

Once again  I will ask.

WHY ARE YOU PUTTING UP WITH THIS!!!!!

KICK HIS ASS TO THE CURB!!!

He is disrespecting you over and over again!!

 a black eye yesterday.....he told me if he doesnt come home he might come over Saturday and take the kids with him to show him where "daddy will be working" I got right up and hit him in the eye!!! That is sick in my eyes....they dont have to see his whorehouse.....now tonight he left me with absolutely NO money, took it all and tells me he is still not sure what he is doing cause Im mean to him and wont quit arguing with him

first of all, KEEP YOUR HANDS TO YOURSELF. stop touching anyone in anger.

get a lawyer, he can‘t leave you and the children with no money and its illegal here for the children to visit the co - habitating home while the couple are still married.

means, he can‘t take them over ‘where daddy‘s gonna be living" till after the divorce.

this is vital if you want to keep him, cuz she knows, if she can prove the children are undamaged by this huge emotional hurricane and be all lovey dovey with his kids, that bitch, then she is half way home.

keep cool women, for god‘s sake.

Gotta agree with Lorrie on this one honey.  You‘ve got to stop hitting him!!!!  and you‘ve got to let go.  This guy isn‘t worth what you are risking.  I know it‘s hard and it‘s SCARY, but you CAN DO THIS...you CAN be that strong.  Ask yourself some tough questions.....Is this the person you want to be?? Do you want your kids growing up to think that this is acceptable behavior?? on his part and on your part????  Do you want a future daughter in law coming to you because your son treats her this way or for your daughter to be treated this way by a future man??  Do you want your husband to take the kids away because you almost blacked his eye???  He is manipulating you into being someone you‘re not!!!  Stop giving him the power and take some back for yourself.  Take that first step and say enough is enough...I deserve better, my kids deserve better.  The first step is the hardest because it‘s mental...you have to stop reacting to his ****, because if you don‘t it‘s only going to get worse.  Most people here have been there, done that, bought the t-shirt (as I‘ve heard them say before) and they give GREAT advice.  Listen to them with your heart and mind open and let it sink in until you BELIEVE it.  Fake it til you make it!!! 

I hope I haven‘t said anything in here to offend you or hurt you, but sometimes I think we need to hear it without the sugar coating.  So take what you need and leave the rest!!

  You have got to pull yourself together.

He is running all over you, back and forth. How much more can you take? He is the biggest ****er I have ever seen. In front of you? I know you are hurt. But it is NEVER going to stop if you keep putting yourself thru this. He is a LOSER beyond the word. Let him go to her. Look what she has. NOTHING. She will probably be trying to give him back one day. You dont have anything with him to LOSE. You have more to gain really. There is no way to undo your pain. None. It is there. There is NO marriage to save. He caused that. You are not to blame for his actions. But you need to get away from him FOR YOU. I know that is easier said than done-but you are the better person here. If you can step back  enough- you will see that.

I agree!  Time to leave and don‘t look back.  Sorry!  And don‘t forget, a man can put a restraining order on a women so keep your hands to yourself.

Good luck!

how in the h e ll does he think you should treat him when he is having an affair and talking to this w h o re at your home on his cell phone.I would be very upset if I where you to.And he is not thinking of you and how the children will be from him doing this.

your h is a real a hole.

why are you putting up with this ****.pack his bags and leave them at the door and tell him to come get them.and to not let the door hit him in the ass any time he comes to see his children.

be strong and like others have said keep ypur hands to your self.I know easer said them done.But you are going to make your self sick and your children need there mom healthy.

First, keep your hands to yourself. The asswipe can get a restraining order and persue criminal charges against you and then your are in deerp doodoo.

Second,its time to start getting your ducks in a row...

1. Contact an attorney

2. Child support order

3. Doctor to be tested for STD‘s ( have the bill sent to him)

4. On your way home stop at walmart kmart dollar store and get the handy Hefty Trash bags.

5. Next stop the liquor store for a good bottle of wine.

6. When you get home call a locksmith and have ALL the lock changed.

7. Put his **** in the Hefty bags and set it out on the porch.

8. Pour a nice glass of wine and call the whore and tell her she can have him.

 But remember keep your hands to yourself!

I know you are angry and things are out of control for you-

BUT- he is not worthy of jack ****. Dont put yourself in the position that if he becomes bitter that he uses anything against you. Like hitting him- if ever does call the police or not- he might try to take your children.

So- keep your hands to yourself and go talk to any attorney. That will probably make you feel alittle more in control. AND you have got to get your control back.

If he quit seeing her or not- would you still put up with his ****? Cause I would be amazed that some ****tard would make you feel so low.

The closer you get to being done with him the better off you are going to be.