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I guess if I have to ask he just may be.  I need some advice.  I am 35 weeks pregnant and I may just not be wanting to believe it.  Myboyfriend has not wanted to touch me sexuall y or any way since  started showing back in Jan.  He says it is out of resect for me.  I ask him about all the fun fantasies we used to share and he says since you got pregnant they are all gone.  I just can‘t believe that and then back in March I found some emails on my boyfriends acct from women he had been chatting and sending pictures too  The pictures were of his penis...well that is what he was telling the women.  Both women were in other states and I knew there was no way he could be seeing them other then through email and possibly phone calls.  He accepted responsilibty promised he would stop and generally became very protective of email and his phone. 

Sunday he went to work at 10 am and returned at 2pm then I was taking a nap and he kept checking his phone.  Tonite I happened onto his email and found an email from a lady here in town. It looked as though it was generated in some wayfrom the law firm he works for as I saw his bosses name on it...possibly.  The part from him said nice tits she says I didn‘t send you a picture of my tits and he says no but would you Remember I have seen them, then he asks her a question about his penis compared to another guys.  Her response leads me to believe she has not seen it live and in person but who knows?   She is in town and this has me concerned.  Here is my dilemna I was nosing on his email which I had told him I wouldn‘t do and I was looking for this.  Second for the most part he is very present with me.  He comes home from work, doesn‘t drink or stay out late.  He is deals with alot of resistance from my son which he takes ok.  He gets up with me, wants to be with me and takes everychance he gets to meet me for lunch, dinner etc...He has been actively taking parenting and daddy classes and is excited about the baby.

What do I do?  Should I confront him?  Admit I was snooping?  Do I accept this as part of him and convince myself he is not getting sex elsewhere. That this is only a email fantasy thing which will pass when we start having sex again.  Am I being totally naive?  Please help me

I‘ve read all three of your posts.

Take your 10 year old boy by the hand, and get the fock out of there.

He is cheating!!  Even if its not physical,  it is emotional!

Comfront him!  If you feel the need to check up on him,  its because he caused it!

ok first of all you should have every right to look in his email why would he care if there was nothing to hide? same with his phone. second of all what man doesnt want to have sex with his wife/gf? he might say all that bs respect for you bla bla bla. no. he is getting it from soemwhere else he is a liar! even though your pregnant and it will be hard to leave the daddy it would be best to do so

I have been down this road just lately, and in the past.  Personally, I called him on it.  He got mad, but I was a lot madder.  He apologized and I‘m hoping that this time he‘ll get it right. 

Do you want to live with this knowledge and sweep it under the rug, hoping it will go away? I couldn‘t, and I won‘t.  I know it hurts so much, and the thought of him not taking responsibility for these actions and instead turning it around and blaming you for snooping is a terrible thing.  You are pregnant and don‘t need that stress, but yet to be honest, he is causing the stress.  He is doing this.  Physical or not, it‘s hurting you and your relationship.  If he won‘t fix that, then you are going to continue to struggle with this until it takes the life out of you.

I can‘t tell you that you should confront him, but that is what I would do and exactly what I did.  I knew he would get pissed at me and try to turn it around, and I went in with both barrels, ready for the fight.  I think it surprised him, or maybe he just really was hoping that I would put my foot down, like a kid who wants guidance from their parents.  We are not their parents, we are their partners and we deserve respect for being their partners.  What he is doing is not respectful to you.  Maybe you could email her and tell her you are his gf, that you are expecting a child, and that you want her to know that you are aware? Some would say to keep it together until you gather information, but the stress of that coupled with your pregnancy might be too much.  I personally cannot keep things inside.

And you have every right to snoop.  He has brought that upon himself.  If he doesn‘t like it, he needs to take responsibility for his actions and quit being a jerk to you.