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| lost_it |
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Posted: 4/21/2008 8:51 PM |
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Subject: Advise and lessons learned |
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New WomanSaver
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Age: 47
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My wife left in 2002 and 2004 we got divorced. I went along, not confronting her about anything. She had everything she wanted the house, the car children etc. This is after 17yrs of marriage (20yrs together). She was complaining i was abusive was drinking etc. I stopped drinking learned a lot about abuse etc. nothing worked for her. all along we were talking i was trying to show her i am getting better and that we should save the marriage and get things better.
i was running all over the country trying to get the business back up and running (the business that we ruined together from millions of dollars of sales to nothing ). I brought it back to life.
in the mean time things are not adding up. Strange things are happening, then i found out when i was trying to reconcile she was seeing this family Vet (70yrs old ) and this guy was writing perscriptions etc to her, giving her money etc. i found this by accidentally reading mail he sent to her. This a***hole was telling her that she should not sign the insurance papers for my kids that i dropped off, that i was a bad person etc etc. trying to win her by badmouting me and giving her things etc. i did not know any of these. I confronted this guy and over that we ended up in court. Sure enough my low-level-life form ex sided with him and eventually got a PFA against me.
Later i complained to the State board of licensing about perscriptions (Prozac etc. all psychiatric medication) and they did investigation and she lied and my daughter lied but that was the end of that. Couple of months later i found out now she was seeing this old Vet‘s best friend who was married to another vet and have an animal hospital. She ripped that family apart the guy left his wife, his wife filed for divorce and this guy is telling my ex that they are going to get married.
The problem here is i talked to his wife and wife says she has nothing to dot with this she loves her husband but wants to live her life and there is nothing she can or will do.
What kind of a f*** thing is this.
The bad part in all of this is twofolds.,
1. my ex was a client and in time she told these assholes all about her problems vulnerabilties etc. first the old vet now this guy took advantage of her. the two vets now do not talk to each other and apperantly they were fighting over her with each other.
2. this guy is a drunk, he has public drunkinness charges and thrown out of a casino in PA and cited and paid his fine last year in august then 4 months later gets caught drunk driving and just got sentenced and lost his license etc.
my problem is i dont know what to do. should i let go and see what happens? I know nothing good can come out of a situation like this. Two homes torn-apart two families. both decades of marriages. my youngest girl is 11 i love her dearly but she has the custody and i can not do anything about it.
this drunk, womanizer, cheater will harm her and my ex and other daughter because he is a liar and cheater and as such can do anything. i am trying to find out if he has any other convictions.
How low can people go? What did he want? Why did these people take advantage of a vulnerable honest person by drugging her by making her drink. she is drinking a lot now.
They never let her think they both knew she was struggling to save our marriage and they acted very sneaky and ugly.
I dont know if i can disclose their names here. I want to because i want other families to know that these guys are preditors. They will take advantage of other families and ruing their lives too. How can I warn other families?
I will disclose their names without hesitation if i can do it here. or anywhere else you can think of.
I am so hurt. for 10 yrs i tried to save this family did a lot of suffering and hurt a lot and in the end she is doing these because she thinks she needs money and security.
What we had was not evnough.
why are people like this low-level ?
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Posted: 4/22/2008 10:49 AM |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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You can not fix the damage that has been done to the other families. You need to concentrate on your children. Pay your support and get a visitation order in place. MAKE her abide by the visitation order. Do not let her keep your kids from you. Make sure that they have what they need. Kids need a lot more than child support covers. I do not mean give the ex money if the kids say they need something for school. You go buy what they need to be sure that they get it.
PS: Why would she not sign the insurance papers on the kids? That makes no sense....Kids need medical coverage.
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| Uncle Don |
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Posted: 4/22/2008 2:04 PM |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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Go Ahead and rat the guy out. Go above to "Rate a Guy." Just make sure that everything you write is indeed the truth. Once posted, you can send the link to his page to everyone you want to inform. I would read the rules about rate a guy 1st, just to cover your own butt.
Sorry to hear about your troubles. I too went thru some crap with my wife and I ratted the Homewrecker out. Read Ed Mackin, Livingston, NJ.
Good luck and keep up the good work with the biz!
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| sunny fl |
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Posted: 4/22/2008 2:22 PM |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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You are not her husband anymore, do not try and protect her. Protect your daughter and help your daughter, This woman deserves what she gets!
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| lorrie |
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Posted: 4/28/2008 3:52 AM |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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| sunny fl wrote: | | You are not her husband anymore, do not try and protect her. Protect your daughter and help your daughter, This woman deserves what she gets! |
 i was thinking the same thing sunni, she ain‘t blood.
concentrate on the children. if these creeps are hooked on alcohol then offer them more money.
tell you ex if she gives you the children you will still pay her the money. see if she will let the children live with you if you give her some money.
you can not reason with drunken druggies however your children are worth the sky so find a way to see them EVERY DAY.
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