WomanSavers.com Forum / CATCH A CHEATER / Any advice on "catching a very slick businessman"?

I‘m 99.9% my husband has been having an affair for over two years. He shows all the signs of a cheating spouse. The problem is that he‘s a real pro and could work for the CIA. (very intelligent)  Since he owns his business he can come and go as he pleases. He‘s always home at the usual time so it‘s not like he‘s going out at night or on the weekends. Who ever he‘s sleeping with is local. He started actinga little strange when he purchased one of those sound machines because he said he couldn‘t fall asleep in August of 2005. He never has a problem falling asleep and is very secretive about alot of things. So he kept using the machine every night and I didn‘t put too much thought into it. In January of 2006 I had a bad injury and he showed no feelings or emotions toward me. I was in alot of pain and he really didn‘t care. I have a daughter who is blind/mentally challenged so at that time he would drive home from work which is eight minutes from our home and feed her. He couldn‘t even look at me and went back to work. After that when I would sit and watch tv with him he made it very obvious and sat three feet away from me. This May will actually be two years of coldness/distance. Last summer of 2007 I sat outside with my (blind) daughter while she was in the pool by myself.  He would not come outside and say two words to her. This went on all summer. My older daughter is a teacher and he ignores her half the time and doesn‘t talk to any one of us. Very, very cruel!! I purchased 2 years ago a GPS tracking device but had to be very cautious as he will check every inch of his SUV. After several months of tracking his vehicle I gave up. I felt that he removed it. I wasn‘t getting accurate readings. At work all five of the computers are networked, so I‘m at a dead end with trying to track his e-mail. He also has several business e-mail addresses that  I haven‘t the slighest idea what they are. He controls everything around here and in his office. Can‘t get passwords either. Another dead end is with his cell phone. He makes sure all his incoming & outgoing numbers are erased. He‘s not the typical cheating spouse where you can find some type of evidence somewhere. I have to say that he has a shaving kit in his office closet with hairspray, toothpaste, toothbrush, hair brush, deodorant and a few disposable razors. I questioned him about it over two years ago and he gave me some good line as usual. He is in SALES! Tried following him from a good distance away and he spotted my SUV. He watches the cars all around him. (make, model, color) I‘m very drained since I am a caregiver and am not a PI. He needs people like Joey Greco of Cheaters to catch him in action and he would deny it!! I don‘t think he would even flinch! It‘s gotten to the point that he can‘t look at me while we‘re eating dinner. He keeps his head down and hurrys up to the TV. . I‘m 100% that it‘s no-one at work. I‘ve read every book on catching a cheater, and none of the tips refer to catching him. He‘s way too clever. I‘m not letting this go since he thinks he so slick!! If anyone out there has any other suggestions beside what I‘ve tried I would really appreciate some  input. 

ps. Also thought of an audio recorder in his own office but it has to be somewhat exposed. He pays very close attention if there was an extra wire hanging from an outlet or computer. 

Note: works 7 days a week. He‘s always busy! 

amen, its not like he loves anyone.

don‘t waste time finding out about him. go find out about your finances. i bet a nickle he is a busy busy boy alright. busy trying to get your name off the house.

start checking your records. i.r.s., credit cards, lines of credit, auto titles, deeds to property, checking accounts, savings accounts, i.r.a., roth and 401k.

copy everything and put it right back. take everything to a lawyer right away. i am dead serious. today would not be to soon.

its over. whether he has someone else or not he left you in pain when you were injured. i am sure you are trying to think up an excuse cuz that‘s what we do for our loved ones however he don‘t love  anyone anymore.

call the lawyer, right now.