WomanSavers.com Forum / CATCH A CHEATER / Fake Profiles

I‘d like to know if anyone has ever created a completely fake profile on a dating site or social networking site to try to either leur their spouse or to tempt them in some way? Please fill me in on the details?

The other thing I‘m wondering if anyone knows of a site where there are woman who are willing to 100% help other woman to catch a lier....for instance, someone comes to me and requests I go after their spouse and then be like a human reporter back to the woman? Has anyone here tried that? I‘d like to try that...it‘s like a game of hook, line and sinkHIM!

Fake profiles, like here, on THIS site?

  Perish the thought.

I saw a show once about a woman who was an Infidelity Decoy.She was paid by wives to catch her husband in the act.She comes onto them....basically entraps them...and then reports her findings to the wife.

She does not have sex with them.But see‘s if they are game.

The one guy I saw her play about pulled his finger off to get his wedding ring hidden from her.

Here is one site that might help someone.

http://www.matecheckpi.com/html/services.html

If you dont trust him   leave him.

You dont have years invested  and you dont have children with him.

You are young,  just kick him out.   get a room mate if it is a money thing.

Good advice, however my trust issues aren‘t with him directly, my trust issues stem from my past experiences and the fear that ALL men are lying, cheating pieces of shit. On the contrary, with the information I have available to me that is concrete, I think he is worthy of being trusted.

The only reason I would want to investigate further would be to confirm I‘ve made a correct or incorrect judgement about trusting him.

And mostly, this particular post is not really relative to specifics, I‘m just curious is general about what other people think about doing this, have they done it, what‘s the story, are there other websites out there that focus on this kind of thing etc.

You are right though, if I get to a place where I don‘t trust him, best to leave him. And no, it‘s not a money issue, he doesn‘t live with me or support me, so I could move on without him much easier than most.

You need to get counciling  for these issues.

Setting somebody up to cheat  is just wrong.

You know something isnt right with this guy  and you also know he isnt giving you what you need.

Dump him  and get help.

no, i have not done something like this.

would i??? well, hard to say. i would hope if i got that far into an abyss of mistrust, i should be gone before it got to that point. but all situations are different.

you do need to deal with your past issues. you may end up pushing a good guy away with your suspicions. and this guy may be totally in love with you, and you may be making a mistake. you must respect his boundaries.

however, if you know hes on a particular site, and you want to bait him, then you need to ask yourself why hes on there, and already know the answer. but if your talking about tracking him down with this fake identity and trying to lure him into something, i think thats going too far. its entrapment, and it isnt fair.

Setting somebody up to cheat  is just wrong.

NO, what is wrong is when they fall for the bait.

An faithful,honorable, man of true character will Not succumb to a decoy.

http://www.menstuff.org/issues/byissue/infidelitystats.html

About 60 percent of men and 40 percent of women will have an affair at some point in some marriage "Monogamy Myth", Therapist Peggy Vaugn

With stats like this...blind trust is just ludacrious!

Better safe than sorry.

Isn‘t this place about outting Men who cheat? So are decoys.

The proplem with testing a man before he get‘s married seems pointless though.Men need someone to get one over on before they find someone to use to do so.

Your distrust is valid.

Wouldn‘t you ladies who have been cheated on like to have known before you were betrayed that your husband was potentially a cheater?

Thank goodness someone understands this madness that goes on in my head.

In one way, I do understand the idea that setting someone up to cheat is wrong, but in another way it is one of the ONLY ways one would find out that their partner is a cheater before the damage is already done.

I‘ve always said that trust is something that should be earned, not given! But in order to "earn" that trust, that man also need not be openly bombarded with interrogation, possessiveness, jealousy and having to explain himself either. I feel that the trust needs to be earned in more silent ways, so you wait, and you watch and you see how he deals with his friends and family...does he lie to them, does he make excuses? How open is he about things in regards to his "woman" friends, does he introduce them, does he talk about me, does he ask that I be involved with his friends? Also, you have to look at his past relationships, why did they break up, was he previously suspected of being a cheater? Does she still talk to him or is she bitter for some reason, did she ever come back, did he go back to her? There are tonnes of things that one can watch for to indicate that he‘s worthy of being trusted. HOWEVER....no matter how great of a guy he is and no matter how much all the above may point in the direction of him being trustable....SEX CAN BE VERY TEMPTING TO A MAN...we all know that, and if he feels desired by another woman, trust isn‘t always the first issue, the first issue now is how well can he avoid this temptation. Does he have self control and will power? Does he give in to temptation? Wave a chocolate bar in front of a woman‘s nose.....if she‘s a chocolate lover, she will probably give in, does that mean she will cheat if she‘s a nympho and is sexually tempted? Not necessarily. However....for both men and woman, if you put desire, fantasy and forseen sexual pleasure in their head....what does or doesn‘t stop them from giving into that temptation is NOT indicated clearly by anything other than the real thing. So, sure, he can earn trust through many silent tests on a day to day basis, but I believe the only way I‘m going to for sure know that he will or won‘t give into the temptation of sex with someone else is if he‘s put to that test. Maybe I‘m messed up for feeling this way, but I too think that my distrust is valid. One can only be screwed over so many times before one says to themself..."ok, it‘s not my fault they cheated, but fool me once, shame on him, fool me twice, SHAME ON ME for being so blind and not covering my ass" and I sure would like to find out he‘s going to give in before he comes home, has intercourse with me and gives me some disease or I get a call that he‘s knocked up some other woman. Which of the two is more Jerry Springer...the woman who sets up the decoy or the man who knocked up his mistress and brought his gf/wife home some HIV/HPV/Herpes etc? .......Think about it!

I met my friend via the internet.  And I have posted a fake profile.  She has gotten pretty good response from other men but he has never contacted "her".  That makes me feel better.

SAM

Could you tell me further details of how you met this woman who was willing to do this and what you two agreed on? Do you both have access to this profile, and if HE WERE to message her, would she forward you ALL the conversations? I‘m really thinking this might be a must as I discovered today in his inbox that he signed up for an account with friendjungle on October 30th-BUT he did not activate the account, however, I DID....his profile was not completed, but it did say "Looking to meet new friends"....which were his own words, not a box you select or anything. Now he is a very social person and what not, but why would someone need to sign up for an account with this site when you have TONNES of friends, a 6 year old daughter, a full time job, a girlfriend and live with 3 other roommates....he‘s by no means lonely or bored and he sure as hell doesn‘t have much spare time. So, this worries me, but I can‘t jump to conclusions just yet.

The saga continues silently.

I‘m a little pissed today.

More updates to come. Feel free to chill me out with your objective opinions!

I didn‘t involve another person.  I just created a free hotmail address with a fake name and then set up a fake profile and it just sits out there and if someone is interested they email "her".  No photos or anything like that.  I just delete the emails to her I get and that is that.  And I have never contacted anyone and would not contact my friend.  Even I think that would be unfair.  I just want to find out if he is contacting other women on the website we met on.

SAM

Sorry, my misunderstanding was when you said "I met my friend on the internet" I thought you meant the friend that was helping you with the fake profile...but now I realize you meant your friend that you are dating. Now I‘m further curious....with all the woman out there that do have profiles with photos and such, how likely do you really think that he would contact a fairly inactive (and I suppose I‘m only assuming that your fake account would be inactive based on how you use it, correct me if I‘m wrong) member on that site that has no photos? I mean, when I was on a dating website, I wouldn‘t contact members without photos, only ones with...now I would respond to members who made first contact if they didn‘t have pics, but after a while of talking I would always ask for photos.

Do you mind me asking which site you are using? I‘m just curious. You can message me with that info if you don‘t want to post it openly.

Huh??  A faithful, honorable man of true character will not succumb to a decoy?  What if she isn‘t a decoy and is the real deal?  Then its ok?

I‘d say this needs to be modified to say "A faithful, honorable man of true character will not cheat...PERIOD"...just as a faithful, honorable and WOMAN of true character will not cheat....if you get my drift RambleOn.

That‘s funny!

This is what was said to me here on the forum

"This forum has had it‘s fair share of whores and trolls taking over the boards lately, and unfortunately, the newbies will pay for it.  Too bad, get used to it."

Unfortunately, those guys who are wondering if they said something wrong to the girl with the fake profile who never emailed them back...well, sadly, they too get to pay for all thsoe men out there who can‘t be trusted because way too many men have screwed us woman over.

Call it selfish if you will...but it‘s quite selfish to be looking for another companion online when you are already so-called committed to someone. There‘s no fairness in that. And most woman who suspect, aren‘t the stats like 85% are right? Which means only 15% of the woman who wrongfully suspect, how many of them are actually selfishly creating fake profiles that are misleading innocent men? I bet about 1%!!!! Everyone with a profile, fake or not, are there for SELF SATISFACTION of some sort...who gives a shit. Some men will write a romance book type profile and all they are looking for is a one night stand, a impulsive blow job or some ego boosting....and you don‘t think their profile isn‘t "selfish"? How many profiles are true, authentic, genuine outlines of what that person is really all about? Probably 2%! And to boot.....how many people in this world are able to have personal insight and write about it honestly? Not many. We as human spend more time focusing on our negative traits in life, then when we go to a dating site we have to self reflect positively...which in my opinion is why many men have a profile that is 2 sentences long...they are usually uncapable of self reflection!

Some people wreck it for others! That‘s just life....TOO BAD, GET USED TO IT! I am!