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Detective Gives Top Clues to Catch your Partner Cheating Online

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Is Your Spouse Cheating Online?
Is Your Spouse Cheating Online?
by Bill Mitchell - Seven Day Detective

Today the chance your spouse is engaged in an online affair is all too real. This epidemic is causing the breakup of countless marriages. There are clear indicators of an ongoing affair. The new and frequently used launching pad is responsible for this marital betrayal. The internet is the first place to discover potential evidence of either an emotional or a physical affair.

With more than four decades of investigating adulterous relationships, I have tracked behaviors, patterns and trends. The shift from traditional sites; bar rooms, bowling alleys, dance halls, strip clubs and other venues have grown to be minuscule today. Illicit relationships grow in cyberspace more frequently today. The rate of online affair climbs like a bull stock market. Your instincts are critical! Go with them. Consider these clues if you suspect any inclination of trouble.

1. Your spouse or partner spends excess time online.
Who doesn't use a computer today? I know only a few people. They are excellent for paying bills, staying in touch with family, friends, customers, finding street locations, and a host of other productive endeavors. We can not live without them and shutter when a lighting storm threaten our usage. Just look at kids and their instant messaging. They will go without dinner just to keep in touch with their circle of friends. Try to pull them away, it's no easy task. Does your spouse resemble your kid's magnetism to the computer keyboard? This attraction often leads to a deviant behavior.

2. Passwords, instant message "buddy lists," Internet email accounts, and emails are concealed and even protected from you!

Do you find your spouse needing their "own space" at the computer? Is there a real reluctance when you ask to know his passwords? What's there to hide? These questions all have obvious answers. The act of hiding information is deceptive by nature. Of course, anyone in "Corporate America" understands the need to protect company secrets. But what legitimate "family secret" are we hiding? Listen, any time a spouse becomes secretive with you, it satisfies a direct need they demonstrate. Why? You resemble the judge, referee, or source of authority establish that "sense of accountability" over them. Furthermore, they are breaking matrimonial law if committing adultery. There is, in many courts, a hefty price to pay!

3. Computer use after you have gone to bed, when you fall asleep, or in the middle of the night.

Have you been awaken by the absence of your spouse at night and found her or him at the computer? If this behavior becomes a pattern, you certainly need to be concerned. While work demands a sense of commitment and loyalty, working late repeatedly after you have fallen asleep is a little odd.

4. Your partner abruptly shuts off the internet and/or computer when you approach.

This is panic and unexplainable behavior. The rationalization is "when all other contingency plans fail, just shut that thing off and don't get caught." This foolish act is also called a "computer crash" and has the potential of damaging both hardware and software. The loss of files can occur when a computer is cut off abruptly. Many spouses have reported this behavior just prior to hiring us. We consider it a significant indicator of a deviant behavior. Now, bear in mind your spouse may be viewing pornography and fear reprisal. This may explain the need for panic.

5. The computer and monitor are always positioned away from your sight.

The study of body language has become useful to many investigators, especially those of us who administer liedetection examinations. An obvious sign of deception and a common mistake the cheater makes is blocking your view. They need the time to clear a screen, turn off the monitor, or change to another Internet page when threatened with exposure. Intentionally turning the monitor or laptop away from view is an indicator they don't want you to see something. Over time, this act develops into a habit and confers greater freedom from detection. In most instances, having the lead time to hide the truth from you is all they need.

6. Clears all Internet history after chat sessions and/or usage or installs software to automatically rid this information.

There are times when a computer becomes filled with unwanted files. Computers run faster when less "temporary" files use up valuable "RAM memory." This is prudent maintenance for any computer user. What I am referring to in this sign is the repeated habit of purposefully clearing information from discovery. While this information is retrievable through the science of Computer Forensics, you won't find it readily available. On the market now is software that actually helps the cheater. The actual purpose of this new software tool is to hide any trace of computer internet usage. Do you find this a little suspicious? I do.

7. Exhibits a compulsive need to be online and seems defensive when confronted to stop.

"When are you coming to bed?" "We really need to go, now, what's taking so long?" "Can't you do that later?" Have you asked these types of questions? Teenagers often become "obsessed" with instant messaging. If you have kids who use the computer, you know. They have trouble walking away from the PC. This same desire or need displayed by your spouse is cause for alarm. A compulsive, defensive pattern of behavior shows a strong need to continue. You need to know why.

8. Shares personal information, photos or events with strangers in emails, chatrooms, or while instant messaging.

Setting up a profile for instant messaging is commonplace. Kids love to fill them up and share with friends on the buddy list. I've witnessed spouses who send nude pictures of themselves over the Internet. They share very personal information that should be reserved to the marital home. Maybe it's time to track this information with software that collects this data. Today more courts are allowing emails and computer usage data as evidence. It's advisable to consult an attorney in your state beforehand!

9. Plays online games and frequents "personals" chatrooms.

This is where it starts. Play a few games, win or lose, but then we need to chat. Well, if chatting is fine, why not include your spouse? You can't, so why do it?

10. Exhibits the eight warning signs illustrated in The More You Know´┐ŻGetting the Evidence and Support You Need to Investigate a Troubled Relationship available here.

Thirty five plus years of investigative experience is poured into this new book release. It's a "must have" resource guide for every woman's personal library.

Top private investigator Bill Mitchell, a frequent media contributor and guest of Dr. Phil and is the author of The More You Know´┐ŻGetting the Evidence and Support You Need to Investigate a Troubled Relationship. For additional information on online cheating, visit his website.

To receive a free special report entitled Emergency Infidelity Survival Plan´┐ŻTop Fifteen Steps to Implement Right Now! Iif you suspect an affair, send an e-mail to mitchellreports@bellsouth.net with Emergency Plan in the subject line.
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